For married men please?

Question

Hi... I wanted to know what workoholic men think about their family............ Wife and kids and all.... ?

Answer 1

I am what people call a workaholic. I have a wife and 3 kids. I love them very much. She is a stay at home mom. Truth is that I work because it makes me happy. I like the feeling of being good at what I do and also the feeling of power I get from being the very good at what I do. I use the excuse that I am the bread winner and provide them with things that they could not have if I was not successful. But in reality there is part of me that just does not enjoy being at home as much as I enjoy being at work. At home everything is out of control and I am not in charge like I am at work. At work I make decisions that effect hundreds of people and people come to me with problems and I solve them. I am in control and have power. At home what I say does not mean any more than what my wife says and issues drag out. I wish I had a better reason but that is the simple truth.

Answer 2

Sounds like a loaded question or rather a subject that you have already formed a strong opinion on. Don't hate the player hate the game. Sounds stupid, but a lot of men find themselves working for a "company" (rather than for themselves) in which the environment promotes the guy who busts his rear end. He probably does so because he is young, has a family, probably a lot of debt and sees the immediate opportunity to provide for them and a good shot at some success and level of comfortableness he and his family does not currently enjoy. It's all too often that this is a young, educated man from a middle class family who probably doesn't express himself well, and is often misunderstood as selfish and greedy. This is probably far from the truth. He's motivated to support his family and recognizes the opportunity to do so.
The opposite of this man is an ego maniac who is particularly greedy for success and views his success through the eyes of others. This is a bad man.

Answer 3

I work hard, and often have to take work home. But my family will always come first, and that work gets done after I make sure I have given them the time they need. That does mean that I'm a little short on sleep sometimes, but when I married I made a committment to my wife. When each child was born I made a committment to that child. And every day if I go to bed and think that I didn't give the family enough of me, I figure out right there how I can give them more the next day.

Answer 4

I don't have the source, but Married Men work 60 min longer than Single men for the same pay, and they are more likly to go to happy hr with buddies then the single guys.
I'm Sure most of these guys love their Fams but hate dealing with the drama and what they probably feels is a nagging wife when they get home. If i were a wife i would ask for zero presents for xmas, but that my husband would try to leave work 15min earlier everday for the rest of the year...baby steps.

Answer 5

Go see the movie "Click" an Adam Sandler movie about a family man whose busy career as an architect doesn’t leave much time for his wife, Donna (Kate Beckinsale), and two kids. You can get it at the video store right now - new release.

Actually, it depends on the spouse. I know with my spouse, I stay at work just because I dont want to be at home with her.

Then there are those that because their job is so demanding, they work a lot. They just want whats best for the family.

Answer 6

I am divorced, hope that counts.

Your question is a hard one and depends on the man. I know I went through that and at the time, I really believed that I what I was doing was for the best. I figured I could put in the extra time and make the sacrifices now, and later every thing would be better for her and for myself.

Too bad, you realize to late that you can never get that time back.

Answer 7

I would never ever be a workoholic. Time with you wife and children is precious and should be number one priority.

Answer 8

perhaps the best thing is to ask these types of questions of your mate. be direct but not accusatory. discuss your concerns and his answers. he most likely has no idea how you feel or how deeply important this is to you because he feels he is doing the best he can for his family by going the extra mile.

Answer 9

I'm not sure how to answer that question, it's so broad of a question.

I'm sure the reason why we are workaholics is because we want to give all of that money to our family, so they can have a better quality of life.

Answer 10

I think it would be unfair to generalize what a work-a-holic man is thinking... you'll get 1,000's of different answers.

Better question.... why don't you just ask him yourself? I mean, he may have a very plausible answer... but at the very least, you won't have to guess based on the 1,000's of different answers you're going to get...