We both love each other. We connect in everything. He is married but she's not with him yet. He just sponsored her. He is Muslim, i am catholic. He wants us to continue our relationship. I want us too. Is it wrong to be in the arms of the only person who completes you? Is it wrong to fall for someone who got married because of tradition? to fulfill the wish of the parents and not because of love? It was me and him before her. Though my mind tells me these all are stupidity and stubbornness on my part, my heart tells me other way. Foolishness and passion is what real love made of. and thats what keeps us going....so tell me who is right or wrong in the name of love?
2006-12-11 08:00:49 · 15 answers · asked by me_adoreu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, I don't think he's the only person who completes you.
You are.
Your decision will be whether or not you are ready to settle for a 'no-family' life with him or leave, start over, empower yourself as an independent woman and find a partner who is willing to go with you all the way.
Your mind is giving you some good pointers, although I wouldn't call it stupidity and stubbornness.
I would call it a narrow focus on only one possibility for your life when so many others are available.
Real love is made up of respect, trust, affection and honesty. Foolishness and passion are not equivalent to each other.
On a solid foundation of a 'whole' relationship, passion can and will grow.
Your own mind tells you that continuing this relationship is setting you up for future disappointment.
What if you honestly make a list of what you have with this guy and open your mind to the idea that having this is also possible with someone else? Someone who is willing to marry YOU?
There is no wrong or right in the name of anything - including love.
There are only choices and consequences.
How would you rather see yourself?
Having 'fallen' in love and thus keeping up a dependency on a relationship that will not honor or empower you in every way?
OR:
Walking into love, with complete joy and dignity, with someone who meets you equally?
You decide.
2006-12-11 08:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by flywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its wrong regardless of why he is married, tradition or not the fact remains that HE IS MARRIED!
Foolishness and passion are only the tip of the iceberg as far as a relationship is concerned, real love, if you are seeing a married man, that isn't real love and he has not a clue what it is, if he is cheating on his wife with you. And you are in a dream world thinking you have real love for a married man, what you have is a fun time with him and that alone doesn't make it right.
2006-12-11 16:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with your definition of love....being silly and passionate are just two facets of being infatuated not necessarily love. If he has a child with his muslim wife, you must be the one to let him concentrate on his real family and say goodbye and not steal him from his child.
Sometimes your heart tells you the wrong thing and you have to use your brain. So I think you are very wrong. Remember he is a muslim who follows tradition and you should not steal him away either from his faith.
Stella's answer is not only very selfish with no regards for others' feelings but love is not always right....what if you fell in love with your sister's husband!
2006-12-11 16:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, what a predicament. I understand your problem, as he cannot marry you and he had to marry someone for the sake of his tradition!
Well, see camila parker-Bowles nad Prince Charles... after so many years, they finally got married, nit under the most desirable circunstances, but they finally did it.
The truth, my dear, is that he cannot divorce his wife. He would marry you though if you convert, but do you want to do that?
Good luck (you are going to need it)
2006-12-11 16:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats right and wrong in the name of love, whats right is to be with someone who's passionate, lovable and has been with you thick and tjhin. Whats wrong is being with someone who has a wife or girlfriend. You never want to be that "other girl." If you are, be careful!
2006-12-11 16:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by Belinda y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a kook and your friend will continue having sex with you and still have the security of a wife.
You get to be played for a fool and be left out in the cold when she finds out.
If he loved you enough he'd be with you. Period. Wake up from your fantasy.
2006-12-11 16:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just want to say please think of his wife what you are doing to her . what will happen to her the day she comes to know about your relationship with her husband? are you in a position to sort out the things at that point and convince her and give her the married life back to her as she wanted ? try to find out the answers your self.
2006-12-11 22:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to start an affair with another person, and cancel a couple of dates with your steady.
2006-12-11 16:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by paanbahar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know...but if youre interested in his religion thing...in islam, a woman can marry a muslim man if she converts and follows the religion later..
2006-12-11 16:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Heera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think about who is right and who is wrong. The RIGHT thing to do is stay AWAY from him.
2006-12-12 00:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋