how to forget first love??????

Question

i had boy friend becaus of family he had broken up our relationship.......in this period my best pal sameer has supported lot to forget him....after my long relationship with him....he proposed me even i love him....... but every day i remember my first love...sameer feel very bad when i speak about him.... some time he tells he will help me to get my first love........... i know sameer cant live without me........even i dont wanna loose sameer.................. im happy with sameer but some time i cry for my first love who left me middle of the road......... shall i hold sameer hand?????????????

Answer 1

hi Riya..
i know that u are going through a very hard time right now..
but u have t o understand that u can never forget ur first love..
no one ever will..
i suggest that u should stay with Sameer because he is the one that truly loves you.
you should realize that because he wanted to help u patch up with your first love. that is true love. he wanted to see your happiness before his.
so, in my opinion, i think you should stay with Sameer because he truly loves you.
Hope you make the right decision.
take care.
Good luck
Bie
Sonia

Answer 2

No...dont try...because you would never be able to forget your first love. People cannot forget their first crush...how are you expecting yourself to forget your moment when you felt the feeling of love for the first time in your life? SInce the relation broke and you have accepted it because that gave a place for Sameer to get in to your life. If Sameer loves you to the extent that he can accept you with your memories and friends..nothing like it. because things happened when Sameer was not in your life. You cannot forget your first love...but Sameer should be mature enough and be able to love you to the degree that you yourself will forget your ex. Actually you will not be able to..but subconciously those memories will never come to surface to bring any implication.

Ask Sameer to read this...

Answer 3

there are no steps to forgetting ur first love.. it takes time. and may be once u are with sameer u wud realise that what u had with ur ex, was not even love but someting else - sounds impossible i know - lemme give u an example suppose u had ur first kiss with someone, may be u dint love dat person, u will not keep thinking about that person evvery second but that does not mean when u kiss someone again, u wont be reminded of it . u will remeber ur first kiss forever!! thats just one of the things u wud remember - learn from ur first life had to offer- u can better the relationship from ur experience.

if not be with sameer - what leave everybody who comes along? even if u wanna hold onto ur ex, is he interested in takin u back. am not saying forget him, coz dats impossible. but the freshness wil evade eventually- give ur self time.

as to what to tell sameer u can be frank and tell him that you need time to figure things out, dont get into a relationship coz u feel sorry or pitiful for dat person - dat isnt fair to you or him and this will surface later in ur relationship with him (sameer).

Answer 4

HOney, I think you are with Sameer cuz u are desperate, not because u want to be with him, but because its hard for you and you need a shoulder. I think sameer should be taken more as a friend than anything else...AND KEEP HIM because he's a real nice guy. Now, you cant just forget your 1st love...it will take years.

Answer 5

Hi,

When sameer understand you. You try to remember all his love and affection with you, more that that fool who left you. Think like that. If your ex-boyfriend loved you, whatever sutiation, he should have fought and married you infront of parents. When that guy didn;t do, why you think of that fool. You can think this way.

if suppose you married that guy ,he might have left you just like that saying family sutiation. May be that is why god had given sameer. So never think of your other lover. Give all your affection and love to sameer. Forget that stupid.

Answer 6

Your first boyfriend was your past and sameer is your present. Hold on to sameer, for he could be the promise of the future.

Answer 7

Yes. Don't run after ur x-boyfrend. It seems dat Sameer luvs u a lot. I have heard dat it is not easy 2 forget ur first luv. But ur very lucky u find ur new luv in ur best frend. Its obvious if u talk abt ur x infront of him he will not feel comfortable. Just move on it will be good 4 u n sameer both. Best of LUCK!

Answer 8

One advise. You are old enough to fall in love so be old enough to bear the consequences of your decisions. This is a time you have to chose between family and love. The best thing is to make sure that he is compatible with you and your family, else you do injustice to both of them and considered as selfish. Anyway you will lose one of them in that case. So you have to decide whom to lose. If you chose your bf... never let him feel that you did a mistake by leaving your parents, that way you will lose the respect from both. See it is your decision... learn to take responsibility. If you have already agreed not be be together AND IF YOU ARE REALLY NOT CONTACTING EACH OTHER,,,,, only then I think Sameer has done a lot for you and you like him.

TAKE YOUR DECISIONS AND STAND BY THEM - BE RESPONSIBLE... DO NOT BLAME OTHERS LATER FOR WHAT DECISIONS "YOU" TOOK NOW... THAT WILL HELP YOU CHOSE THE RIGHT WAY.

Answer 9

My dear why spoil your today for a wasted yesterday?

sameer has stood by you through your hard days. Respect yourself, sameer's love and forget the useless person who didn't respect your feelings.

Answer 10

you cant forget your first love never . try to live with the feelings , make it a habit . as per the sameer issue you are attached to him because you are very emotional and he also knows that . again i say you will never forget the first love