I am in the process of leaving my husband, (I know, bad timing) but what should I do with the items I don't want to take with me? I mean things like old clothes, nicknacks, my wedding dress, my wedding shoes. How much is okay to leave behind?
My friends say I should clean the house before I leave-What do you think? Is this necessary?
2006-12-11 07:29:40 · 27 answers · asked by The Unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take whats important to you
2006-12-11 07:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by woodsing2000 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you have already stated that they are items that you dn't want to take with you then why should take at the first place?
Cleaning the house is not a must but it only makes you look like you still wanna be friends after leaving your husband.
Keep some stuffs as memory and leave the rest behind and clean the house if you feel like it.
=)
2006-12-11 07:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by PassionFruit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on just how much you want to haul around with you ,,,, If you aren't a materialistic person then don't worry about it ,,, just take what's necessary and let him deal with the rest ,,,, You can always start another collection of materialistic things on your own later ,,,, If the marriage is sour and you want nothing more to do with it then take no reminders unless they have sentimental value of some sort ,,,,, What I mean is an item that a favored relative or some one like that got for you ,,,, Your move would be much quicker and less of a hassle ,,,, Let him deal with what's left ,,,,
2006-12-11 09:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a very dear friend come over and pick up the things you no longer want. Do not leave anything behind because it will just be an excuse to contact him again during the "I'm not sure if I have just made the biggest mistake of my life" phase of grief. Don't leave a trace.
A true friend will be more than happy to help you. And tell your friend that you do not want to know what they will do with the items. And never ask them either.
Be brave and go after a better and new life.
2006-12-11 07:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would it really be that hard to dump the things or give them to the Salvation Army?
If you have a lot of stuff they will often come pick it up for free.
If you are planning to up and leave and leave him wondering, leaving a clean house might be a nice thing to do lol. At least when he mopes around for a week it will be in a clean house.
2006-12-11 07:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take what is specifically yours. Obviously your clothes and shoes and personal care items. Things that cannot be disputed over. If he is staying in the house (apt, whatever) the things that you bought together will need to be sorted out. This can be simply agreed upon by you two or can be left till the divorce so the lawyers can duke it out. (I would recommend that if you two agree yourselves what is yours and what is his that you get witnesses and written agreements. Nothing super fancy or anything, but this will prevent perhaps bloody dealings during the divorce proceedings.)
That means your wedding dress etc it totally yours.
2006-12-11 07:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all decide wether or not ur gonna miss ur wedding gown and things like that. then when that is out of the way donate everything u dont want to a charity or a clothing drop box. there are lots of needy people around this time of year. there is also a buy a present for an angel you could check that out at ur local walmart and see what u could do for a less fourtunate child.
2006-12-11 07:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by bchbumsparadise 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should donate the items you do not want to a homeless shelter, Goodwill or Salvation Army. I agree with your friends that you should clean the house or at least leave the house neat and in order.
2006-12-11 07:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Stillplayinggames 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you need to leave and dont want the remaining stuff, then just leave it. Youre welfare is more important. If you feel you are able to then drop them off at a charity store, but otherwise just go.
I walked out on EVERYTHING a couple of years ago, I just left my ex to it. Why should you clean the house? Just go. Best wishes
xx
2006-12-11 07:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by rattyfraggs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Clean before you move.. remember the homeless shelters need those items on a daily bases. and the wedding dress you can give to the good-will so that someone else may enjoy..
Good luck!! I got Divorced on my birthday 11/15/06.....
2006-12-11 07:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mz.G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't just take stuff to be spiteful. If you have old clothes, donate them or give them away, but besides that then just leave it. You can definitely sell that wedding dress if you need the money
2006-12-11 07:33:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋