My fiancé wants to take me to PV for our honeymoon. We started dating before he was divorced and I know that was the last place he took his wife before he got divorced to "try to work things out". He and I broke up, got divorced and then ended up together in the end. Now he wants to get married and stay at the same place where he took his wife for the "last time". Personally I dont want to go there, I would rather go to Cabo, La Paz or Mazatlan? Is there something wrong with me? What should I say the reason is on why I don’t want to go there?
2006-12-11 07:27:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the quick answers. Yes we shouldnt have dated while married to others, and I want to thatnk all of you who didn't "judge" me for doing that. We both were in horrible marriages, with mates who had cheated on us and treated us like **** for many years. We love each other and I know that neither of us would cheat ever again, because of how much love and RESPECT that we have for each other.
I go a lot of good answers and I am talking to him about it right now.
Once again Thank you all!
2006-12-11 07:47:14 · update #1
u know what their is nothing wrong with u.. i would be like that too! If my b/f took me where he took his ex i would hate him for not finding a place that is just for me... so no is nothing wrong with that just tell him that u can;t be going on a honey moon where he took his ex... that would not be romantic.
2006-12-11 07:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are really trying to ask is that if your relationship has had such a rocky start and past, that by taking you there it is his way of telling you that he thinks you guys are at a need to work it out position. What I am gathering is that is what you are afraid of and that you are afraid to ask and talk to him about the possible hiccup in your life. it could also be a point of jealousy you see this as a place he took his wife and you feel that in a way even though he is no longer with him, by going there she is actually there "interfering" with you and his relationship. there is nothing wrong with this these are natural feelings of insecurities u are obviously considering the marriage proposal and that instills another fear that it may fail again this time. Be sure to openly tell him how you really feel otherwise things will get complicated, tell him you want to go somewhere new and exciting some place that you two can make your own add special memories that wipe away the past and signal the new beginning that you two are sharing.
2006-12-11 15:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by jeremiah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why you are marrying a guy who cheated on his wife. Remember how he came onto you? He'll do that to another woman when he's married to you. The same way. Cheaters are always cheaters. Well, you are allowed to make mistakes, I guess. Anyway, it seems he still has a thing for his wife and wants all the memories of being there with her when he takes you on his honeymoon. I'd tell him I don't want to go anywhere he went with his first wife. Your reason is, you are his new wife and you don't want him thinking of his old memories with another woman on YOUR honeymoon. As to what is wrong with you....I don't know, but this guy you are going to marry is a loser and you don't see that. He only thinks of what he wants. He will let you down just like he let his first wife down. (Don't believe a word he says about how awful she was...it was all his cheating self.) Go find someone worthy of your love.
2006-12-11 15:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with you, I would feel the same way in your position. What you could try is tell him that this is a new start for the both of you and therefore a new place would be the best way to start your new lives. He most likely is trying to see you as his ex and therefore you might be expected to fill her shoes.
2006-12-11 15:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "let's go somewhere you haven't been" Or just tell him the truth... If you are about to get married to him then you all should be totally honest with each other or it will end like your last marriage
2006-12-11 15:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by RobbinATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to have your honeymoon someplace that you can create unique memories with him and can call your own. Tell him you know he took his ex to PV and because there are thousands of other places to go, you'd prefer someplace else. I'm sure he'll respect your wishes.
2006-12-11 15:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to go to your "own" place- He could have said he wanted to go there just because he likes it and not even though about his ex (it is possible) Just explain to him you cant help *but* think of his ex if you went there and it would, well, suck to go there. You are sure he did not mention it to "re-live" any memories, but you want to make your own special memories some where else.
2006-12-11 15:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY WOULD I GO THERE. My boyfriend wanted to take me somewhere where he took his ex girlfriend, the one before me, and they had a pretty serious relationship. I said No Way. I don't want any memories of her to come up while he is with me. I completely understand, i would not want to go either. I would tell him how you feel, and go somewhere else.
2006-12-11 15:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would there be anything wrong with you. Its totally understandable that you dont want to go there. Tell him how would you like it if i wanted to go somewhere me and my ex had gone. I dont think he would like it very much. Talk to him and explain to him you want to go somewhere else. I wouldnt want to go on such a vacation knowing he tried to make up with his ex wife there.
2006-12-11 15:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just wrote. It's reasonable that you wouldn't want to go where he took his wife for the "last time". That's enough of a reason.
2006-12-11 15:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋