my b/f has walked out on our relationship bcuz of an arguement about him going outside (freezing) straight after he came in from work to talk to his (married) female friend-for half an hour! after heated words he told me he values her over me- he's only known her just over a month. what should i do?
2006-12-11 07:17:23 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say to be honest that he has thought about her more than just a friend for him to have an outburst like that......
I would just leave him a while to calm down, then text him and ask if he would like to come and discuss this situation calmly.....
Wishing you the best for you babe and you xxx
2006-12-11 07:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let him go...The grass aint always greener on the other side..You can't make him stay if he doesn't want to. Besides do you really want to be with a man that values another woman over you...Hold your head up high and act like a lady about this - If you let him get the best of you - then you let him win...Don't do that - and hold it together for your daughters sake ( even if it does hurt like heck) She will need to think life is ok, she'll respect you for it later. Some men are just dogs - and to do it right here at Christmas - what was he thinking? Things always happen for a reason - when one door closes another one opens. Better things will come your way. Good luck to you and your daughter - email me if you need to talk..
2006-12-11 07:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by daybreakxoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard, but he made his choice, don't try to fight for him. even if he stayed how can you trust what he's really feeling? his actions are demonstrating that he has checked out of the relationship and you should move on. there may be a chance for reconciliation in the future, but right now the best thing is to think about yourself and your daughter. the other woman is married so i'm sure she won't leave her family to be with your bf, but that doesn't mean you should stay with him.
2006-12-11 07:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by cami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would pack up all his belonging and place them on the porch an call and tell him to come get his stuff he no longer has a place to live.....
Then i would go and file for child support that way you child is taken care of..... And see how fast he changes his tune when all this happens but stand your ground if you dont and let him back he will do it again because he knows he can get by with it.....
Find a man who will respect what you say and who you are and have a good life... godd luck hope all works out for you
2006-12-11 07:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hes not worth it. sounds like he may be having an affair with her it doesnt add up if hes siding with her after only knowing her a short time. you should ask him his reasoning for for valueing her over you and ask if the past 5 years and his daughter mean anything to him? maybe after the dust has settle and the tension has calmed you might be able to talk about things reasonably.
2006-12-13 01:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your probably best rid. Sorry but if he can walk out on you both like that your better off by yourself. It will be tough for a while and you'll wonder whats going on. But things are sure to make sense as time goes on. Hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-11 07:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either really smart or really jaelous. He was just talking! Whats the big deal? Does tihs happen everyday? Do they do something else besides talking? I would have left you too, but I would have not just walked out. I would have discussed how to keep the kid happy and how to arrange the support of the child. he doesnt alue her over you, he probably doesnt even value her at all! but if you are the jaelous kind, he was probably fed up with your attitude towards him and females. Good luck
2006-12-11 07:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let him go. But, be sure you get hefty child support payments. He values someone he has only known a month over the mother of his child? Sounds like he is no good, anyway, and not someone you need in your life. Wonder if her husband knows about their "friendship". Maybe you should ask him.
2006-12-11 07:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Change the locks. If he did this to you - AND your daughter-, so close to christmas, he's a p rick.
You can never trust him again so he's OUT I'm afraid. Or at the very least, kick him out for a few days to make him suffer. He must be punished. You need to be strong in front of your daughter because this will affect the ways SHE relates to men , too one day.
Actually I'd LOVE to hear his side of this argument...?
2006-12-11 07:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its so easy to say leave him but I feel your pain and know its easier said than done. He sounds like a real loser especially telling you he values her over you - I would tall him if he values her so much to go live with her! Chin up it'll get better and your better off without him
2006-12-11 07:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him apolgise and let him back in. Seems like a silly reason to start an arguement in the first place!! Not worth chucking the father of your child out for. Try not to get so wound up.
Hope it works out for you.
2006-12-11 07:20:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋