It seems that over the last few months I find ti hard to be with my husband. It seems like everything he does bothers me and I can't seem to get past all this. Sometime when I'm at home and he's at work I will have the desire to be with him and then when he get's here it's like it dissapears.. I have evn found myself being mean to him and he says he feels stupid sometimes becase the way they act. I love him I know deep inside. But i don't want to hurt him anymore. What should I do?
2006-12-11 07:10:55 · 21 answers · asked by lover_autumn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not the only one who has felt this way, I totally understand. I was once in your position. What I did was try to rekindle what brought you two together in the first place. Was it his smile? His conversation? His sex? Then look inside of yourself and ask what can you do to help bring these feelings back. Did YOU change? Have you let yourself go? Are you less communicative? You have to have a give a take here and start doing more together. If you went out alot in the beginning, make time to do it again. If you use to kiss and hug alot in the beginning, get back to doing that again. Try it, it worked for me and our relationship has improved because we got back to what brought us together in the first place.
2006-12-11 07:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Friend, how old your marriage is? Well doesnt matter, dont get tense. Many women are facing the same problem dear. I suggest you to develop your own hobbies and try to utilize your precious time in the best possible manner. Time is Money, thats what you have to remember. But one very important thing you have to remember that be honest in discharging your duties as wife. You did not mention whether he is interested in some one else, but any way i think you should try to find out good male friends around you some times they are of much help in such cases. You will start regaining the confidence and enjoy the life with like minded people. On net also you can have good CHAT FRIENDS, but Please, be selective !!!
Last but definiately not the least, if possible, think less about him and try to develop and grow your personality by reading good books and dont always try to be after him, be confident and smart as per the demands of today's modern world, dear, rest assured as the time passes, he will definitely value your good ness----------
Best of Luck to YOU
2006-12-13 01:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by barkha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember all the things you used to do together when you were first dating? Well doing all those things together again may help re-light the love and passion in your life. Go out to the cinema, go out for a nice meal, or play a board game together. Have you got a pet to look after together? Something for you to both love may help you love each other better too. You could even have a nice night in with a drink and a takeaway. Just try and do something together ou wouldnt usually do.
2006-12-11 15:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by amy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !
dont worry..relaax..
at least on couple of occasions, almost all hus/wives pass through these sort of moments ...whether they agree or not !
But during these moments, tryto think about the positives and good things he/she has done for you ! the things she/he has sacrificed for you ! and of everything, the nice things you have done together all these days...and the nicer things you can do in the future !
The "life span of humans is too short..and the love is to be expressed and not to be hidden.."
Look for a better and brighter tomorrow..
all my best wishes..
2006-12-11 15:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by suresh k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. You may be pushing him away because you are not comfortable with yourself, I may be way off here, but I am going to guess that you feel that you may be overweight. If your not sorry, but either way. Make time for him and only him. Ask your self if you are just not attracted to him, or if you are just to tired to notice him right now. I would also talk to him, you should let him know and that way maybe he can help out in this process. I hope this helps
2006-12-11 15:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by roxie2k3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in our lovelife, we as women, reach a point where things get monotonous. We want changes, i dont mean partner wise but spice to our relationship. I suggest, before he comes home tonight, take a hot shower, relax yourself, then watch your wedding album. This will remind you that the guy who is coming home tonight is the only guy who means the world to you. remind yourself of the things you love about him...then u will just find yourself helpless in his arms again. being romantic once in a while isnt going to kill you. it will make him want you more and more..........
2006-12-11 16:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by me_adoreu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up a job and keep yourself busy. You love him so you will be able to get over minor problems and can be happy. Change your wardrobe. Always dress well and look elegant. It will make you feel good and enhance your confidence.
2006-12-11 23:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling! There's obviously enough love to revive your romance. Do you have high expectations? Perhaps try to have no expectations and see how things go? It sounds like more is going on here than being attracted... look inside...
2006-12-11 15:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice to your husband, important is that dont always show that you are after sex, show him that you can also get preoccupied and tired always in nights, till he comes to you.dress up nice, try to maintain your body.Cook for him nice and win his heart with some wine.Be one step ahead of him, thats what i do. My husband is a workaholic, and i am at home. but i go out with friends, only to hep places, take up salsa classes, aerobics etc...i am planning to also join for job and earn a lot of money and get a nice car.u see if we girls show them we can stay even if they are not there around us then they will definitely fear and come to you.
2006-12-11 17:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apko apne husband ki har baat manani hogi
aap unhe itna pyar karo ki woh har bakt apke
bare main soche.
jase ki main har bakt apni wife ke bare main
sochta rahta hoon
2006-12-12 10:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by INDER S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋