Is my mom wrong?

Question

Two years ago my mother was pinched between two vehicles( she was ok) in a grocery store parking lot while trying to get out of her vehicle to purchase a soda. There were witnessess and a police report was made and when she came home and told me about it she was not really concerned. I told her she should sue because clearly she was not at fault but she didnt want to. A few days later a commercial for an attorney came on stating that if you've been injured to call him, well I did after my mom told me not to. I insisted anyway.It took two years but they settled for $4200.00 my mom never once had to do anything but have one conversation via phone and cash a check. I recently lost my home and everything in it due to a fire. Before the money was in her hands I asked her for $20 to get my ID so I could work and a cellphone, she also insisted on giving me $500 towards a down payment since my car had been recently stolen.Since she has received this money she has done nothing to keep her word

Answer 1

Huh?

Keep her word at what?

you just said she gave you $500. What is it you want? More?

Maybe she has bills of her own to pay

Answer 2

If you were my child and we were on good terms I sure would be helping you through this horrible time. My family went through a fire when I was young and my dad says to this day that he could not have survived without his family's help! I woudl sit down with her and explain what your feelings are. Tell her you do understand that it is her money and she can do what she wants with it but you would really appreciate some help, even if it is something you need to pay back in the future!

Answer 3

so your mommy isn't giving you money? Go get a loan from a bank based on your disaster. What about your insurance company. Where is your money in your bank? You've got to have something. Plus if your car got stolen insurance should pay for some of that. Thats why you have insurance!

Answer 4

You really shouldn't be airing your dirty laundry on the net. You know your mother better than us. If you go back and review what you've written, I'd say she's pretty nice, giving you $520 so far. I'd ask follow up questions, but honestly couldn't care less.

If you are on-line, you should be looking for employment, perhaps loans or grants, dealing with your insurance for your house and other things than bitching about your mother.

Answer 5

My impression from your story is that she promised you this assistance but has not delivered on the promise. Since you helped her to get the $4200 settlement on her accident, you feel that she should be willing to help you with your needs. When it happened, she was willing to assist, but could not at the time. No that she can, she is unwilling. I would try to gently remind her of your situation and her promise and suggest that she could use some of her settlement to help you. Then you could offer to pay her back when you are able. Then keep your promise to show that you are a man of your word.

Answer 6

Well. It is true that your mom owes you nothing. She should have kept her word and given you the money she offered, or just not offered it at all.....but in the end if she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to. Next time she offers you money you'll know not to bank on receiving it.

Answer 7

Your mom owes you nothing. You deliberately went against her wishes in contacting the attorney. Since her words then meant nothing to you, why are trying to hold them up to her now?

You are a greedy opportunist. Cut your losses and leave your mom alone.

Answer 8

youngsters climb on something and each thing. in case you do not choose her mountaineering on the timber pile, you could have it fenced of... that's elementary newborn-proofing. i in my view do not think of your mom became into incorrect... purely inattentive. however I do think of your husband over-reacted slightly. it could have been lots greater ideal to easily get rid of her from the timber pile and tell her to not climb on it returned and ask which you mom shop a closer eye on her. there became into no could drag her screaming into the domicile. Your husband sounds slightly over-conserving to me.

Answer 9

Why is this a legal question? Does she legally have to give you any money, absolutely not. You should like a real loser to me anyways and I don't blame her for not giving you anything.

Answer 10

Sorry you have had it hard latley... Ethicly it is wrong for your mother not to keep her word... But according to the Law, unless it is in writting don't hold your breath... Good luck, and my prayers are with you!!!