Were you married for 15-20 years? What was the end result? Do you have any regrets? Was the affair with a friend that you fell in love with?
2006-12-11 07:05:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. I had an affair. It was a lot of fun while it was going on, but really hard to get out of. I went into it looking for a little fun and it turned into a year long affair of me sneaking around to see someone who I really didn't want to see. Sex was good. Conversation sucked. Sneaking around sucked more.
I did regret the affair even before I got out of it. That's the big thing-- sometimes it's hard to stop. Either the guy is like all in love and stuff or he likes the sex so much that he doesn't want to stop. This guy threatened to tell my husband and blah, blah, blah.
Well, if you're thinking about it--STOP! Take a nice long look at your marriage and ask why you would consider going outside of the marriage. There's a lot to consider here.
2006-12-11 07:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HAving an affair doesn't mean that you fell in love with that person, it could be strickly sexual in nature. Yes I have had an affair and no I do not have any regrets. The end result is still the same, I am married to a great woman and would not think of leaving her, though she might leave me if she found out, but there are some things she lacks (sex) that I need. I don't flaunt it or even suggest things are different with us though they are. I just do what satisfiys me...life is to short to do otherwise!
2006-12-11 07:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I haven't had an affair but my parents both did. My father had an affair with in the first year. My mom left him and went back several months later. 16 years later my mom had an affair with some guy and she told my dad. Even though they stayed together it almost destroyed their marriage. I think in some way it did destroy a piece of it and they'll never get it back. And now, 10 years after my mom's affair they still have trust issues with each other. They both question each other. It's really sad and being a child of parents who have done this I have to say that it was really hard on me and I always had trust issues with men. I thought my parents were the perfect couple and when I found all of this out I thought if this could happen to them it could happen to anyone even me. So if you have had an affair or you are planning on having an affair, just think about all the people who are involved who could get hurt.
2006-12-11 07:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by hey culligan man 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First of all, the first time is always a curious matter. You feel like your on top of the world. It becomes an ego thing if you don't get caught. We look for someone to do us the way we want to be done. You may think your in love, but in reality your not. It's not even an infatuation, it is guilt, lust, and desire. If you don't get caught the first time. It is easier to get away with it a second time. Less guilt, and more confidence. Then it gets to a point where nothing is worth desiring for. In the end you either end up living your life under a cloud of guilt and regret. Or you will end up living your life as a lie. I told my self the next time I had intentions on being unfaithful then maybe it would be better for me to be honest and move on with my life. Once a dog taste blood it is never the same..
2006-12-11 07:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it would be wrong. You have a lot of life ahead of you, he is using you for sex......or wants to. Men at that age a lot of times are just looking for some action. I mean be realistic, stand back and look at the situation, he is over twice your age and may even have kids your age. What could a 42 year old married man have in common (really) with a young 18 year old girl?????? He is married and unhappy (they all are) and obviously he is leading you down the path to having a relationship. I bet he's told you this is the first time too. He never does these things, blah blah blah. He wants sex.....Run don't walk away from this guy. Get a real boyfriend your own age who can really have something in common with you.
2016-05-23 06:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married 15 years and have never had an affair.
2006-12-11 07:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Together 11 years, married seven.
No affairs, hence nothing to regret.
2006-12-11 07:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you driving at here Beth? other than becoming a punching bag for all the sanctimonious do-gooders here.
Drop me a line and formulate your question with alittle more detail. I'll offer what I can and I won't beat you up in the response. I promise.
2006-12-11 07:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes twice once I regret terribly the other I will remember for the rest of my life.
2006-12-11 07:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have not had an affair how about YOu?
2006-12-11 07:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by mvang_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋