They have been friends for 11 years. They've never been overly friendly to me but I've tried to get to know them. My fiance and I broke up for a little while and while we were not together he was angry at me and told them things about arguments we've had. Now they have this horrible image of me that is all wrong. They also swear I've been engaged before because a mutual friend of mine and theirs said I was. I've never been engaged before. They say I am lying. I know my fiance is hurt and I just want to find a way to fix this. He loves me dearly and I love him too. I just want him to be happy. Help!
2006-12-11 06:59:50 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The two of you shoud move to a new state and make a fresh start, with time these things will sort themselves out. But it is a long hard road, I know from personal experience.
But there is hope so never give up.
2006-12-11 07:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, firstly, those so called friends sound like jealous old girlfriends. Secondly, marriage is between a man and a women, not a man and a women and all their friends. In the end you will have eachother and only eachother when it comes down to it. You will find couple friends who like you both. This is something your fiance has to fix, not you. It is his fault they have that image, not yours. It is also very normal for friends to not stick around after one friend is married. It's ridiculous but it is normal, so maybe they were just looking for a way out. Another thing to consider is your husband will have a grieving time with the loss of his friends, perhaps trying to bring back friends like that is not a good thing for the relationship. I hope this helps. Good luck. Have a lovely day!
2006-12-11 15:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on being YOURSELF. It doesn't matter what his friends think. He's engaged to YOU. If it makes you feel that bad, talk to your fiance. If he unwilling to change, see your point of view and deal with his friends, etc... then perhaps you may want to rethink you relationship. How will this effect you in the future? How will he react during future situations that come up if he's acting this way over something of a lesser magnitude?
Be yourself! Think for yourself! Love yourself!
2006-12-11 15:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Porter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mutual friend and clear up the issue. Once you get them to realize that they were wrong, maybe even contacting the person they say you were engaged to to prove you were. After they realize that they were wrong, ask them since they are your friend to please help you by telling your friends and finacee that you were not engaged. As far as what his friends think about you, there is nothing you can do other than to try and be nice to them and hope that your present actions speak louder than past words.
2006-12-11 15:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything... it was your "fiance" opening his big trap to "the guys". Let the guys work it out between themselves. Stop worrying about what everyone is saying and believing. Keep on the straight and narrow and in the end it will all work out.
2006-12-11 15:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take time out for his friends without you. Show his friends that you are willing to give him space and time to hang with them. I would let him handle his friends and not talk to them about the issue yourself. When you are around them make sure you show them how much you love him and how you are going to be the best choice for him. It will take time, but they will come around.
2006-12-11 15:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by micah z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is the only one who can fix it. He must have told them some pretty bad stuff for them not to like you. They should accept his decision.
2006-12-11 15:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on with your life. Who cares what his friends think. They suck and u don't end of story.
2006-12-11 15:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋