I have been with my partner nearly 9 years and during this time my partner has been behind my back 3 times ( one nite stands ) and keeps going on porn.
He tells me he stopped the porn etc.... but been on computer today and he has hidden a folder full of it which again he's saying it isnt him but hes the only one with access to this laptop.
This has happened loads of times before with always the same answer he will stop doing it and that i need to give him more sex !!!
I am the one with the high sex drive, but when i want it and come onto him he's always to tired etc.....
I know people think im mad for staying with him but him and our 2 kids is all i got as i have no family, i love him to pieces but cannot cope with his ways help/advice ??????????
2006-12-11 06:55:54 · 7 answers · asked by chaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have also tried watching it with him even thought i dont like it and he kept stopping and was more interested in the porn than me .
2006-12-11 07:23:16 · update #1
And lily you need to grow up as obviously you didnt read my question properly as im not going to put up with it any more.
And when you love someone and have 2 children together its not as easy as that.
You answers are so bitchy and not helpfull at all the same as your reply to the 38wk pregnant woman.
you need to get out more.
2006-12-11 19:38:01 · update #2
first off I am so sorry that this is happening to you. But since this has happened before and u haven't dropped him u must love him. Maybe you should put him in therapy to stop his addiction to porn. Or you could take away his computer as the wife you have all the power. :-) good luck
2006-12-11 07:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have coped with it for the past 9 years, what is making this time so different? You have already set the pattern. He is not going to change, just like you are not going to change. You will tolerate his porn (big deal, as far as I am concerned) and one night stands (obviously you don't mind him poking her then you then someone else then you then some one else then you... yikes, how could you even want it in you after where it has been????) So suck it up just like you have been doing for the past 9 years.
2006-12-11 07:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch the porn with him.
then hes got no reason to watch it behind your back.
+ you both may get really turned on and have some great sex.
2006-12-11 07:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no person will change for someone until he admits he has a problem. 9 years of putting up with it just pacifies the behavior.
2006-12-11 08:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by beast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm i think the best thing to do is go for councelling BOTH OF YOU.
2006-12-11 07:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by LYDZII3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, get your computer scanned, with that much crap on there it may be swamped with viruses.
Secondly, ditch the pervert.
2006-12-11 07:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by ROBSTER 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
hit the road jack. move on, move out, move up.
2006-12-11 07:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋