The reason i ask it becuz... i was never into it i married my husaband and he knew from the beginning how i feel about it. i'll find vedio cd magainze and i'll throw them away . then of course we fight about it . claming that all the porn was his friend. anyway so far he was doing good and he respect my feeling. the other day i told him that it was okay cuz i know he love me and that i trust him cuz i know he not going to do anything bad he start to turn on the computer got in to web site porn and i was there i said it was okay but deep inside i was hurting.
2006-12-11 06:51:05 · 21 answers · asked by browneyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I watch it with him, and he enjoys that. It leads to some pretty good times! I understand that you are upset, and I'm not being rude to you, at all. I'm just answering your question. Guys love porn, and if you know he's faithful to you, then I say if you can't beat him, join him.
2006-12-11 06:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 05:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been the jealous type, especially when it comes to porn. Every person is entitled to their fantasy life, and for many men, that includes porn. It's not a desire for other women. And while porn may be exciting and enjoyable for many men, it does not satisfy like a real woman can. No, I don't have a problem with porn and never have. My partner is one of the many men who enjoys porn. From what I know, he has quite the extensive collection that even includes videos he made with ex-lovers. Yet somehow, he can't get enough of me. Why would I possibly need to feel threatened by him watching porn?
2016-05-23 06:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the beginning of my relationship I too couldnt understand what the big deal was about porn. But as our relationship grew I HAD to understand she didnt approve, it made her uncomfortable and she felt like I was holding her to porn star standards when it came to the bedroom. I no longer look at it for respect of her feelings, it wasnt that hard to give up. But like any addiction the first thing is to understand it is a problem causing relationship issues and problems. Good luck and stand your ground.
2006-12-11 06:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I know my husband would never cheat on me, but it still hurts. It almost makes me feel like I am lacking something or our sex life is lacking in some way for him to have to have to look at that stuff. It doesn't really make sense in my mind, but I feel ya!
We have had few fights over the same thing. When you figure it all out, let me know!!
2006-12-11 07:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by me me me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it hurts you, then it's wrong. if he's getting emotionally attached to the porn, ie calling it his 'friend' then it's wrong. if you both are okay with it, and can enjoy it mutually, then it's okay.
I personally encourage it, because he gets ideas and we have more fun, i mean, come on,,,, what's he gonna do, hump the computer screen or the book??? no. he's gonna come to me.
but it's COMPLETELY about how YOU feel. if you feel disrespected, then you are. if you feel hurt, then you're hurt. don't make excuses for him, or let him make excuses. you feel like you feel and you can't aplogize or change it.
good luck, honey.
2006-12-11 06:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Leasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember...
It doesn't matter how he works up the appetite, as long as he comes home to eat!
In other words let the poor man have some eye candy, if masterbation becomes a problem then argue, but as long as he is coming to you for his satisfaction what is the problem? You don't have to look at it, its his thing.
2006-12-11 06:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching porn is ok. It doesn't mean anything. As long as you have a healthy sex live you have nothing to worry about. Try to watch with him.
2006-12-11 06:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that within good and strong marriage vows, that looking at porn is not giving your spouse 100% of yourself. It's cheating your spouse out of something that rightfully belongs to just you two.
And if it hurts you and detracts from your marriage vows, he needs to know this and respect you.
2006-12-11 06:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why not watch some of it with him? i love porn, it gets me a little worked up, helps me fantasize and is so hot when we act out what is going on onscreen. Maybe u should try to spice things up, dress up for him, roleplay, keep him interested...and aroused.
2006-12-11 07:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋