She was so sure before and now she's not, I hurt her a lot when I cancelled the date. But now I know she's the one after taking some time and I'm scared I've messed things up...
2006-12-11 06:49:38 · 19 answers · asked by Ben M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you are going to have to give her some time. She gave you time to think, and you have to do the same for her. You are also going to have to regain her trust, which takes time as well. Show her that you're serious and that you are willing to wait for her. Don't push her, though, because it could make things worse.
If your relationship is strong, she will come around in time.
2006-12-11 06:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by 12879 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wedding is not the prom. There is no need for your date to match your dress. That being said, it's fine if *he* chooses to wear an orange shirt. This type of situation would only be inappropriate if it was obvious that the non-bridal party person was really trying to look like they were in the bridal party (like if he wore a tuxedo and tried to nose his way into photos, or if you were not a bridesmaid but went out and bought a nearly identical dress to the real bridesmaids). Honestly, though, I think it's bizarre if you ask/tell him to go out and find an orange shirt to match you. It's one thing if he already had the shirt, but matching on purpose is just kind of odd. Especially with a bold color like orange. I think you're both going to stick out like sore thumbs. Again, a wedding isn't the prom. And even if it was, there are no "prom rules" that say that your date has to match you ... it's wise to COORDINATE, sure, but coordinating and matching aren't the same thing. "Coordinating" at the prom would just mean that your date probably shouldn't wear a purple plaid vest if you're in orange ... neutrals (black, silver, latte, a subtle gold) will coordinate with any dress color.
2016-05-23 06:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you may have done is given her a chance to worry about the relationship. She was ready and you werent which means she has ran everything in her head over and over again. She is thinking so many things right now worried about if you "ARE" really ready this time. Just give her time to think about it. I am sure you 2 will be ok. Just be there for her like she was for you. Marriage is a scary thing as I am sure you both will agree. Getting cold feet is totally understandable.
2006-12-11 06:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You possibly could have messed things up. You should talk to her and ask her why she's not sure and tell her that you understand you probably hurt her but you wanted to be sure before you took that step. But that is life... you did what you felt was right at the time... and now she's feeling the way she's feeling.. you could possibly have messed things up, but you can't turn back time, so I suggest just talking to her. Communication is key. ASK HER WHAT SHE NEEDS AND WANTS . If she wants some space, she deserves it, she gave you yours when you wanted time to soul search. If its meant to be you guys will come back together in the end. Ironic situation...
2006-12-11 06:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u cancel? Anyway tell her your really sorry and that you just needed some time before you were sure and that you've got things straight now and also that you are positivetly sure she's the one.
2006-12-11 06:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by mariah!:) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She respected your decision not to set a date and do some soul searching.
Now you must respect her decision.
But first you must understand it. Is she saying she's not ready to set a date? If so, give her the same respect she gave you.
If she's saying she doesn't want to marry you, not only not anytime soon, but ever, then move on in a respectful manner. Realize she has already moved on.
Good luck...be respectful of her wishes.
2006-12-11 06:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by drgolfmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some time. She has to make sure in her mind that you are not going to cancel the wedding on her again.
2006-12-11 06:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would open up to her, and tell her how you feel. I think there is no harm in explaining that you got scared, because it's a big step. Really open up to her and tell her why you are sure she's the one now. Then she will probibly let you know why she's feeling the way she is now too.
2006-12-11 06:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have thought things through before you got engaged, that's a huge step. So now maybe she will make you wait more and suffer a little for hurting her.
2006-12-11 06:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by sillyme24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had your chance and you lost it. I don't even want to imagine how devastated she must have been when you let her know you wanted to do you "soul searching". Put yourself in her position as well. Maybe you did her the favor of realizing that she was probably making the wrong decision.
2006-12-11 06:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by BuNNY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋