How do you stop being the "resident Loser"?

Question

One of my little cousin's asked this yesterday, and it broke my heart.

For any of you still in school, or who still can remember being in school, how can she stop being the "resident loser"?

Answer 1

this is my story;
You grow up (I know that's hard to imagine at that age) and become the resident winner.
Living well is the best revenge.

Answer 2

It's s-o-o-o tempting in school to want to be with the cool kids and hang with that circle. Anything that sets you off, such as not having the right looks or maybe having less affluent parents, will get you being called a "loser." Kids are very cruel about this and such things are how they establish a hierarchy.

If this happens, it's a painful lesson but one that can be a learning experience. The best thing to do is to pick a group of kids that is similar in attributes and temperament. So what if you can't belong to the "cool" group... you can still have great friends and that's cool, too.

I'd advise your cousin to look for someone similar to him/her and work on developing a friendship with that person. Maybe s/he can study together or get together for some after-school activity.

I could never be one of the cool kids in school -- too poor and not nearly assertive enough. But I eventually had friends and learned that being the "coolest" was not necessarily the most fun or best.

Answer 3

Your cousin needs to find a group of people he can relate to and be friends with. Even if they are all losers, at least they are losers together. Also, if he acts creepy to people, he needs to stop that that almost always gets everyone to dislike you. Maybe he should try sports, or join clubs or something to get more active and raise his confidence. Nobody deserves to be unhappy, but it's unreasonable to believe that you can go from being the 'resident loser' to one of the cool kids.

Answer 4

I found that hanging out with other kids around an activity really helped. Theatre classes are good: I'm never scared doing public speaking because I took theatre classes, and you can take them as young as six years old. Soccer, choir, chess and martial arts are all good, and you can start them quite young, too. It gives you a reason to get to know all the other kids. Kids in band and theatre often get reputations as "losers" among kids who aren't in those things, so you feel that it's "us against the world" and it gives you an automatic group of kids who might feel the same way. That should help your cousin.

Answer 5

well just get out there more dont be shy talk 2 some1 and do not act scarey

Answer 6

you can start being a winner