in june i was on vacation and my friend called to tell me that she had met someone. mind you she is married. i told her that i didn't want to know anything about it as i like her husband and i think he is a good man. she has on several occasions since then tried to bring it up and i stopped her in her tracks. well, this friday she called all frantic wanting me to delete her yahoo account. i did it but before i could figure out how i saw lots of disturbing things. she has pictures of herself that are not appropriate. her only contacts were men and some of the things they were saying led me to believe that they were not just internet buddies. she told me that she would explain it all to me later. i don't care to hear it. she would have a raving mad fit if it was her husband. i know she is going to try to talk to me about it but i have lost all respect for her and don't want to hear it. we have to work together so it is touchy. what would you say to be tactful but get your point across?
2006-12-11 06:42:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her you are dissapointed in her.
2006-12-11 06:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why loose respect for her? Is it because she has way more fun then you? I bet you're a gigantic prude. So what she has a husband. She's obviously not happy with him. I've broken a few happy homes myself and I really don't care. What she does is her business, but if she needs someone to talk to about it, then damn it be a friend. What the **** is wrong with you? You are not too good to be her friend. I know you got skeleton's in your closet too. She's a human being just like you. Treat her as such. You are no better than she is. You're probably a closet hoe. Freakin hater!!!!!!! You sound like a blonde snob from Bellvue. What's give's you the right to judge her? You're the worst friend in the world. I'm glad I don't have friend's like you. How MUCH do you LIKE her husband anyway?
2006-12-11 14:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kat206 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell her that you don't feel comfortable knowing the details because you like her husband and would feel badly knowing that she is cheating on him. I think this gets your point across without being rude. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 14:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend's lifestyle disturbs and upsets you so much I would part ways with this person or have a heart-to-heart and suggest that she maybe she seek professional counseling.
2006-12-11 15:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you don't want to hear about any of it, that you don't want to be involved in her marriage problems. That it would make you more than uncomfortable knowing.
2006-12-11 14:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by hopelessmhs87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally .. I would tell her "NO i dont want to hear this , This is 100% your Mess Not mine. You got yourself into this , You will have to get yourself out of this."
2006-12-11 14:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you really think that she has a problem, you should help her instead of judging her. think about it this way: if she's acting like this, there must be a reason.
2006-12-11 15:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her very bluntly that you don't want to get involved and that you don't care to hear about it.
2006-12-11 14:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, her personal life doesn't concern you.
2006-12-11 14:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by visitor42353 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋