there was a bad car aqccident here friday. this girl i went 2 skool w/ died. she was 15. i kinda knew her but not that well!! i cant handle it, i cry and cry and cry! she had so much she wanted 2 do in her life and know shes gone! she was so sweet! and just an all around good person. but yet the driver didnt die, and he was not good at all! it hurts so bad! how do i deal w/ it, b/c she was so loved and will always be missed!
2006-12-11 06:28:43 · 14 answers · asked by -adri; Your my wonderwallll. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People come and go as sad as it is to say. My father died when I was 9 years old along with many others. It's hard to deal with death if it is either a family member, friend, associate, someone you knew of etc... People don't want to see others die, especially if they were young (haven't live their life yet), someone that is so nice and has a heart of gold, death is just something we have to face sometimes, unfortunately. Its part of life and reality to all. It's funny how they always say the "good die young". This is so true...I can't understand it, I don't know who can. I wish I could tell ya. The only thing I could think of is that the other person (driver) will have to live with this haunting memory for the rest of his life and that hopefully in Gods sake he will learn from this situation and not do what he has done in the past. If not, he will get back three times fold. Karma's a *****! I live by this saying. Anyway as far as mourning over this sweet girl, you must think og the good memories and share them with all. She would not want everyone to be depressed and not live their lives. You aren't feeling selfish this way, believe me. But at this point, you are aloud to mourn and cry over her being deceased. Your a human being and you know that she was a good person at heart. If you believe in spirits, think of her as a white guiding light watching over you cause she realizes that you know she wasn't supposed to die and that she resepcts this deeply. If you know her family, I'm sure they would acknowledge this too. Just keep your head up and realize there are some people in this world that aren't good, swallow it up with pride and never turn into the horrible person that these people had turned out to be. Crying is good though, it let's all that negative energy out. Right now, you might cry for days but in the long run it will ge tbetter. You don't have to forget her and you probaly won't.....but you'll remember how good of person she was and someone will remeber how good of a person you were too someday. Keep ya head up girlie.....and live your life to the fullest day-by-day cause you never know when your gonna go.
2006-12-11 08:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be of little consolation right now, but you will get over it.
Don't worry about how you are feeling, you must just be a compassionate person. (Think of how you can cry over a movie character.) You are likely feeling the loss of the community, the poor girls family and friends. It can be a sobering experience to hear of a tragic loss even if you are not directly involved. It can too, make you think of how it would feel to lose your own loved ones and deal with the idea of your own mortality.
If it really hurts and you want to do something, why not start up a collection or fundraiser at school and donate the money to a charity that the girl would've liked. It can be a good distraction for you, will make you feel good to do something, and will show her loved ones that you share their pain and that their daughter will be missed by many.
2006-12-11 14:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there are many reasons this could be bothering you. 1) You actually realized that a person can be there 1minute and gone the next. 2) You knew her (although not well) You know that you will not walk down the hall and see her anymore. 3) She meant more then you realized and so on.....You don't have to know some one very well to miss them. They were there and now they are gone. That alone is a shock to anyone. Just let out a good cry and let her memory live on.
2006-12-11 14:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by I wanna dance naked in the rain! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say only the good die young. Even if you didn't know the girl that well you're still very saddened because it happened just like that. You never knew the last time you saw her was gonna be the last. She's so young and loved by everyone. It's a terrible loss. That shows you that every moment of your life is precious.
2006-12-11 14:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I had something similar to that happen to me. I think its hard for us because of the kind of person they were, not necesarily that we knew the person or not. In my case, this girl was a great student, she was athletic, and she was very social. She died of a stomach problem over Spring break. I knew who she was but I really didnt know her. But she was a great person and it hurts to know that someone so smart, athletic, friendly, etc lost their lives when there are so many evil people in the world going on with their lives. It makes you think, why her and not the bad ones. That's what I felt in my case. I hope this helps you. And I hope you feel better and cope with the loss.
2006-12-11 14:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experienced the same thing when singer Aaliyah died. I didn't know her personally and wasn't a big fan. She went to school with a girl I was friends with, but I had never met her. Her death was very traumatic for me. I think what bothered me so much was that we were the same age, had walked the same streets, had talked to some of the same people. Her death made me deal with my own mortality, and I think that is what's happening with you as well. When people you know die, it makes you think about your own life. This is just a part of life. You will get through this.
2006-12-11 14:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by clifsdi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the cliche goes, time heals all wounds.
As humans we're programmed, through evolution or what have you, to be callous to natural disasters but if someone's life was taken by *another person*, it elicts a different kind of response.
For instance, 9/11 unified the country because it was unbelievable that one person or group of people could perpetrate such a barbaric act.
But if you look across the world, yearly more people die from earthquakes, floods, etc., but we don't have such a visceral response to them.
As mentioned before - time, sharing your grief with friends, charitable works in her name - all these things helps deal with the tragic loss.
2006-12-11 14:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Prakash V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard when it's someone your age. It makes you think about your own mortality, which is a really scary thing. All I can tell you is a lot of things aren't fair. I hate to say that, but it's true. It will get better. I promise. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-12-11 14:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by dontimaginetheyllallcometrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lk im 12 and the same thing happened to my friend but she was 13 and she slept and in the morning she didnt wake up.
she was with me at skool. but actualy i didnt love her that much but still losing a friend is hard to handle it even if u dnt like them its hard..and its even harder wen the person wqho dies is young :'(
im sorry :(
2006-12-11 14:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by babees94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is your compassion...knowing that a human life was extinguished at such a young age, without the chance to experience all of the things she wanted. Even if you didn't know her well, you realize that she will never be able to experience life...
2006-12-11 14:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by hi_its_bryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋