She has a three year old son and a two year old daughter. She was about 20 weeks pregnant with this baby when it died. I am not very close to her, but I feel like I should do something for her and her husband.
2006-12-11 06:28:10 · 15 answers · asked by VeldaVanVeek 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
sometimes people forget that a stillborn or a miscarriage is still a loss and expect the family to get over it. the worse thing to say would be "it's okay, you can have another one!"
treat this the same as a death in the family. send a nice note, or go stop by and let them know that you heard. don't impose, but just leave them with a simple, "i'm sorry for your loss and if there's anything i can do to help, let me know." bring them a dinner or dessert. a busy mother will always appreciate that gesture.
2006-12-11 06:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra G 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who lost their baby girl 9 days after she was born. I felt so guilty because I had just had a baby girl. But what we did for them was we bought them a star like off the star registry, we had it put in the babies name. if your friend hadn’t had a name picked out you can just put “baby smith” whatever their last name is. Also people in that kinda of situation of loss they need a lot of help, a lot of times people think of the mommy and sometimes daddy can get passed up. Just try to be a friend maybe ask if she trust you this well to take the kids for a bit and take them and do something fun, because kids no mater the age can since when something is wrong or someone is sad. When I had a miscarriage a lot of my friends brought over food. It really didn’t matter what kind, but it was great because all I wanted to do was cry and they were looking out for my family during this very hard time. You never want to do anything when something like this happens and when people bring over food it is a big big help! Just let her know that your there, and I know people are saying tell her if she needs anything to call, but most of the time when they need something they wont call. So just take it upon you self to help out. In the end she will realize how much you care and that she got some really great people out there who care about her!! Good luck!
2006-12-11 07:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by laicic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
human beings purely get all bizarre at the same time as they see youngster dad and mom I might want to comprehend im 15 and function a 2 month old infant. He can't do something to you and if he calls the police they received't do something because you're doing each and every thing you're assume to and see you later as you're taking care of the infant then each and every thing will be positive. do not hardship about him purely preserve you and the infant. good luck!!
2016-11-25 21:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make dinner for the family. Offer to come over and let her tell you what chores she could use help with. Take her kids out for the afternoon, let her have some quiet time. Anything that will be of help I'm sure she would appreciate. Take care.
2006-12-11 07:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to be grieving for her loss, at present the best thing you can do for her is to be there for her, anyway or time or place she feels she could use you. Just let her talk and get all the suffering off her chest. Its going to be emotional but she will appreciate all the love and understanding you have to offer. My sympathies are with her as Ive been in her shoes.
2006-12-11 06:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's so tragic :( It's also great to know that see that you want to reach out to her! Anything heartfelt to express your sympathy would be great! It would be awesome to bring them some dinner one night, leave them some flowers and a card, or volunteer to watch their kids so they can have an evening out! Even if you're not very close to her now, you could even go knock on the door and talk to her for a little bit, and if she melts into a sobbing mess, give her a hug! Let her know that if she needs a hand, you'll be willing to help out.
2006-12-11 06:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you could come over and watch her kids for her while she takes a nap. She is probably exhausted. And tell her you don't care if they house is clean when you come over, so she won't feel like she has to straighten up for you. You could also make her a dinner or show up with some laundry baskets and tell her that you will do two loads for her. This might be an opportunity for you to become closer to her.
2006-12-11 06:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mom In Training 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she is doing and listen. It is a great loss. It will be a comfort just to know someone cares. Remember that baby was already her child and its loss is just as great as if the baby had already been born.
2006-12-11 06:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by fancyname 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send her a sympothy card. sometimes this is the easiest and best way to say you are feeling for them. Some people aren't big on company around this time so this would be a good way to tell her that if she does need you, you are only a few steps away.
2006-12-11 06:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen!
When she wants to talk just listen. Don't tell her it will get better, don't tell her you know how she feels. She knows that neither of these statements are true and she will shut down with you. Just listen and let her know that you are there if she needs you.
2006-12-11 06:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋