well i live in the north side of chicago and he lives in Indiana we only see eachother every four weeks...he says he loves me everyday..he wanted me to have his baby...he buys me everything i need...im scared that he might find someone better...i do the exact same things but im scared this can only last so long please give ur honest advice..
2006-12-11 06:25:38 · 13 answers · asked by Cindi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He lives in Texas and I live in Maine. It's hard sometimes, but we make it work. If there's hope that you will be together, it can pull you through. If you're always insecure it won't work. We broke up because of that before. You have to trust a lot, and talk on the phone and stuff when you say you will. It can work, but it's reeeeally not easy.
2006-12-11 06:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by dontimaginetheyllallcometrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and discuss the situation. A good place to start is to read together in the Bible I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" to find out if you both have the true love described there. Love is patient and kind and doesn't seek its own way at the expense of others. It is such that if you love someone, you would gladly lose your life to save theirs. If you both have this kind of love, then also know that distance and time are meaningless to you. When everything is right, you will come together and be married if you trust in the Lord putting you two together. If you don't have this kind of love for each other, then you should part and trust the Lord to help you find the one who does have it. I prayed many years to find my wife and we have been married for over 28 years now. We trusted in the Lord and He hasn't disappointed us.
2006-12-11 06:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a baby until the two of you are in a position to build a life together. There is nothing wrong with long distance relationships, but having a baby will not bring the wo of you closer together. You need to have that togetherness first.
2006-12-11 06:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow..a tough situation. It is very hard to have a long distance relationship but it is not unheard of. What it all boils down to is trust and communication. If you honestly feel like he is not being true to your relationship while you are apart then you need to ask yourself if you can handle it. The question of faithfulness will burn in your head and make you crazy unless you really trust him. It will only last as long as the trust does.
2006-12-11 06:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to become more secure in yourself before you have a baby. (Plus, you need to get married first.) If you are afraid that he is going to be unfaithful or to leave you, then you need to sever the relationship now, if only for his sake. He doesn't deserve a woman who is so clingy and jealous. You sound very young. Why not explore life and find out your own potentials before worrying about hooking up with someone else?
2006-12-11 06:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by servinggodalone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 03:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong, don't let him know that you feel incompetant. Your attitude should portray you as the best. Be strong and confident. Guys love confidence. Spend time building your self esteem and then he will choose you because you are a strong person. Read "The Rules" and "Maybe you're just not that into him either".
2006-12-11 06:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Lulu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HIM!!!!!! You two people are the only two who really know the situation you're in. Talk to him about your feelings and try to come up with a situation both of you are comfortable with to fix the problem. (Moving in together?) If he loves you as much as he/you say he does...then he'll either understand your feelings, or share them. Good Luck, and sorry if my advice doesn't help much!
2006-12-11 06:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by dragon_fan1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna give you good advice about this I telling you that sometimes we hold on to thing GOD is trying to pull us apart from. I'm not trying to tell you that you and him don't need to be together b/c if you both can agree on a place where yall can be with each other then it may be good after all.
2006-12-11 06:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Shalla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are rough, but if they're meant to be then they will. You can't be sure what he's doing there. If someone comes along go on a date, it woon't hurt your once a month relationship with him. Personally I wouldn't rely on anything too serious from your long distance boyfriend.
2006-12-11 06:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Noe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋