there to help pay for rent but he always grilling me about moving on oh yeah we live together now and baby it is not pretty the problem is i need to find a roommate that wil notl bail out on the rent, and i know he will not do that he always telling me i need to move on but how can i when he is still in the picture the baby is only 3 months HELP I AM CONFUSED AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO
2006-12-11 06:13:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THE SITUATION YOU ARE INTO HAS TWO SIDES- THE GOOD SIDE IS THAT YOUR KID WILL HAVE THE CHANCE TO BE WITH ITS DAD, ALTHOUGH YOU ARE SEPARATED. THE BAD SIDE IS EVERYTHING ELSE. I LIVED WITH MY EX BECAUSE OF OUR SON FOR 10 MONTHS AND IT WASN'T EASY. IF YOU ARE TOTALLY OUT OF ANY FEELINGS FOR HIM, YOU COULD TRY IT, ALTHOUGH IF U HAVE THE CHANCE AND ABILITY TO LIVE WITHOUT HIM, YOU BETTER DO IT. DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM WITH THE HOPE HE MAY COME BACK. I AM SURE YOU HAD A GOOD REASON TO BREAK UP. EVEN IF IT DOESN'T LOOK THAT BAD NOW, IT WAS BAD ENOUGH THEN TO BRING YOU TO A DIVORSE. THINK VERY GOOD ABOUT IT AND IF YOU CAN LIVE ALONE- YOU BETTER DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM.
2006-12-11 06:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might go and visit with an attorney. You may find out the house he is buying will be yours and he will be paying child support for the next eighteen years on top of it. I wouldn't rent to you ex though; unless he hands in a complete financial statement and can prove he can afford the rent.
2006-12-11 14:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could either of you possibly move on with your lives if you lived together. I don't think it would be comfortable, and even confusing for your child as he gets older seeing Mom and Dad living together but dating others. Do what is right for your child and then yourself.
2006-12-11 14:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I presume you were married when you had the baby and he
is now paying child support as part of the divorce ??
Get alimony also...
Otherwise, move on and find a husband who will care for you.
2006-12-11 14:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You can do bad by yourself. And plus he have to give you child support. You know you don't trust him. If you couldn't trust him in your relationship. How in the world can you trust him with paying the rent? You and the baby will be fine. Trust me!!
2006-12-11 14:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Bigg Reddz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not move in with him! He owes you child support too. You should be able to find a reliable roomate out there...perhaps a friend or cousin? It sounds like you already have problems with him...imagine being stuck with him even longer!!!! A lose-lose situation.
2006-12-11 14:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to live with someone for them to take care of their child.if you see now it aint working out then move with a friend or get help from the goverment with hosing.just tell them the dad aint around and you're a single mom who needs help getting housing.
2006-12-11 14:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Miss.Strawberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just wants you around when it's convenient for him, such as financial....seems too complicated to be his roommate, but not be a couple, but also have a kid together, there needs to be more definitive lines
2006-12-11 14:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋