I am now 33 and married with kids. I started dating my wife in high school and only had sex with one other girl before my wife. None since. My “prime” free and single days were in the beginning of the AIDS era when everyone was scared you could get Aids from kissing and water fountains and for sure if you had sex. O-Well. I wish I had taken more of the opportunities I had for uninhibited pointless sex back then.
2006-12-11 06:10:06 · 33 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't think that i would say that i wanted more partners but that i wanted to be able to have that pointless sex as you described...i've been married to my husband since i was 19. now i'm 28..lol..ohh well!
2006-12-11 06:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here honey, except i'm 21 and in a commited relationship. just know that the grass always looks greener on the other side so appreciate what you do have in life instead of dwelling on what you don't have. pointless sex is just that: pointless and very empty. try learning how to be thankful that you get to have it with someone you love and that loves you back, someone that won't play mindgames with you and will be there in the morning. be glad you don't have std's or got all these other women pregnant. in other words appreciate what you do have in life, because if you don't life will be miserable.
word of advice: take your wife on more dates, buy her cute outfits you think would look beautiful on her and tell her that. tell her she's gorgeous every day. romance takes just a little effort but it's sooo worth it. this intimacy when you both love each other and make each other feel good is what people that are single and having pointless sex wish they had: someone to love them.
smile and know the world wants what you have : ) and treat your wife like a goddess.
good luck hun, and happy holidays
2006-12-11 06:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is the only sex partner I have ever had. Although I do not have any desire to "explore other fields" now, I do wish I had played around with a few girls earlier in life, just for the variety and to have different experiences. There are things my wife will do that many wont...and there are things my wife won't do that many will. It's like being dealt a hand of cards...you'll never get everything, but I'm happy with the hand I have now.
2006-12-11 07:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Are you having a "seven year itch" or something? I wish I had fewer partners. In fact, I honestly wish I had only had sex with my husband. We have a great sex life and we try new things all the time, but I do wish I had only been with him. You should not be thinking about this! It can only lead to trouble. If I could be 18 again, I would go find my current husband and try to date him then. lol. Instead of having to wait nearly ten more years.
2006-12-11 07:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEWER!!! I was sexually abused as a child and went just crazy when i found freedom. I felt like i was already damaged so what would it matter. The problem though is that i didn't have a choice in the abuse i tried to stop it i told and nothing happened to these people but i did have a choice later on in my activity and it only made me feel ashamed and disgusting for what I did to myself. I think it is great that you all have made it this far and you shouldn't have any regrets and besides that it sets an excellent example for your kids.
2006-12-11 06:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely would have had fewer partners ... I went through a phase of no self worth .... you shouldn't feel as if you missed out on anything ... it really does nothing for how you view yourself ... if you have a great wife that enjoys sex than expiriment and mix it up .. its nice to be with someone and know what to expect or how to get them there ...
2006-12-11 06:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin until I married. I have never been sorry. In this day and age of AIDS and STDs, I am glad I know I am healthy. I don't miss what I never "tasted." Also, "pointless" sex is disrespectful. You have respected your body and your wife's. Why aren't you proud of that?
2006-12-11 06:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have had fewer partners. I was in the military for 8 years and went crazy (stupid). I think it taught me alot about what I wanted and what I didn't want it. It sounds to me like you are happy with your life and that is a good thing, don't do anything to mess that up. Happy holidays to you and your family.
2006-12-11 06:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by niedermn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have time to think about things that I cannot change, even if I tried. I try to concentrate on my children and husband and the life I have now. I choose what I have and don't have any regrets, that's what being an adult is all about. My advice to you is live in the present and try new things with your wife.
2006-12-11 06:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about 18 but in my early 20s I would have done more I think. But I also would have (using hindsight) done a lot of things differently which would have enabled that to happen
2006-12-11 06:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋