I come from a very large immediate and extended family, and we are all very close. We often hold family gatherings to celebrate holidays, birthdays, and the like. Obviously, we all introduce our significant others to the family as soon as feel feel there is something substantial going on. What I am curious about, is when is it appropriate to bring your new date to family functions? It's not an issue of acceptance; my family is very inclusive. I am more concerned about the fact that unfortunately, many relationships don't last. Is it fair, especailly to all the little ones in the family, to continually bring a different guy (or girl) to family functions? Does bringing a different date to every dinner undermine the idea that family is forever? Is it unreasonable for a couple to wait until they have been together for a certian period of time before making a dual appearance at a family function? I am interested in your thoughts.
2006-12-11 05:59:13 · 4 answers · asked by mlle-fantine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My family is very similar to yours. We have family functions for just about everything. As far as my family and I were concerned the sooner I brought the person I was interested in home to visit the better. Basically when I felt they were someone I was seriously interested in an ongoing relationship with, the doors were open to have them attend too.
It gives your family which is a huge part of your life a chance to meet someone who is special to you and your love interest a chance to experiance an important part of your life your family. The other nice part about bring them to family functions instead of setting a day up for just them, is it takes the pressure off them having to entertain everyone as once and keeps the focus on others instead. I always found bday parties to be the best ice breaker for others to get to know my family .
As far as undermining the "family is forever" idea I dont think it does. Families come in all shapes and sizes and just cause you dont continue with a relatonship doesnt mean you may not stay friends. For me friends ARE family as well so in a since its just more extended family. There is nothing wrong with displaying happiness for the littlle ones in the family. Being able to show them that you can be happy with several people can give them the knowledge that even though things may not work out with one person there are others out there and you can conitinue to be happy.
My only caution would be to keep it lite on the physcial part while around the little ones. A new person is one thing.. but making out with the world is another. Although if your are like me and my family there really isnt a lot of that going on anyway.
Congrats on a great family and a postive love life. Its sounds to me that you have much to celebrate this holiday season!
2006-12-11 06:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The sooner, the better , If I was a guy, which I am not am not, I would want to share the new love and family, right away.
2013-12-31 08:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you may be together for a while then take them ,if not take a friend
2006-12-11 14:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Del's wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you are serious with her is when it is a good idea to take her to a family function.
2006-12-11 14:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋