going through a divorce and every time I don't talk to my ex for 3-4 days she calls and wants to talk. Says she is torn between me and the guy she left me for.
2006-12-11 05:49:22 · 18 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are no children in the picture.
2006-12-11 06:13:16 · update #1
Sounds like she is wanting to have her cake and eat it too. She loves you but loves this other guy too. I say, Ignore her, It lets her know what she gave up, If you keep talking to her then technically she still has you....understand?Good luck!
2006-12-11 05:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥It's a boy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably different for each person out there but for me by ignoring me or doing the isolation thing ,it only irritates me more and pushes me further away and after a while I will not have the same feelings I had before and probably won't even care to speak,not even on a friendly note, I try to avoid selfcentered and shelfish people anyway
2006-12-11 16:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just wants what she can't have. If she left you for another guy, leave the picture completely and let her decide how it feels to not have you in the picture at all.
2006-12-11 13:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there ever thought that youre wife might be regreting leaving you ??and wants to get back with you ?? or the fact that she is trying to make amends to you not wanting to get back but just trying to say sorry,this type of thing amazes me when people who get married and get to this stage and can not talk to each other,no wonder the lawyers love this type of breakup ......why dont you find out what she has to say and then close this mess of for good one way or the other....take care xx
2006-12-11 13:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids together????That is the biggest question! If so do everything possible to work it out if there's a chance. If not I'd cut her loose. If she really wants you back it will ONLY work if she comes crawling back on her own terms without you making it easy for her.
She burned you, she knows it, you weren't dating -YOU WERE MARRIED!!!!!!
If she doesn't absolutely regret it she'll just repeat it-trust me there.
Good Luck
IMHO
2006-12-11 13:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a real *****. The real question here is do you really care if she wants you or not. This woman didn't just cheat on you--- she left you for the guy she was cheating with.
2006-12-11 13:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, nobody wants to be rejected and even if she left you...you ignoring her makes her feel rejected when all she really wants is the attention.
2006-12-11 13:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by JayScrounge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep
2006-12-11 13:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Paradise * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, yes. When my ex husband stopped calling me and chasing after me I began calling him.
2006-12-11 13:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, sounds like she needs you for security if the new guy hurts her be unavailable and move on you deserve much better
2006-12-11 13:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by undeniable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋