We met this woman on a nature trip about a year ago. She sent a christmas card this year to my husband. She addressed it to him but inside she addresses it to our family. She also mentions looking forward to being on the same trip as him in the future. This person was very rude to me on the trip. My husband told me he does not like this person. He wants me to be the one to send a card in return. My question is should I send a card with a message in a polite way of back off or no card or just a card signed from the family? I feel that this person wants more then just a card. Right now, I have a card signed from the family to be sent but I have second thoughts. Thank You in advance just for reading this. Serious Anwers Only please.
2006-12-11 05:45:30 · 23 answers · asked by Red Angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank You everyone for your suggestions!
May you all have a Merry Holiday and A Happy New Year!
p.s. On the trip, everyone's address' were handed out on the same paper.
Thank You All!
2006-12-11 06:53:58 · update #1
That was very rude of her, and it sounds like she is interested in your husband. I would probably ignore her and not send anything in return. If you send something in return it may send her the message that it's ok to send things to your husband. Sounds like she is testing the waters to see if she can lead him astray. If you ignore her then she will think either a) he didn't get the card, or b) he is happily married and not interested. Either way, hopefully she will back off. Good luck.
2006-12-11 05:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe she only addressed it to him because she didn't know/couldn't remember your name? If that's not the case, then the situation seems a little tricky. But, at the end of the day, I'd say trust your gut. If the note made you uncomfortable, chances are there are poor intentions behind it. Don't send a card you don't want to send. This person doesn't even deserve your mind time! Chances are, you'll never see them again anyway! The holidays should bring good cheer, you'll only be sending her the wrong idea if you don't want to keep in touch or dislike her. you're best off not sending anything. And if she's waiting for your card, well that's just weird.
2006-12-11 05:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by should be working 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I honestly do not think you need to send her a card in return. The only reason you would send it would be to make a point that I am sure the woman already knows. I would say be the bigger woman and do not do anything at all. It surely is not worth the effort or the concern. If you still feel the need to send her one then do not make it too personal. Sign the card from the "Jones" family and that is it. There isnt a need to do anything more.
2006-12-11 05:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kail 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't send a return card. She doesn't deserve a Christmas greeting to hear you tell it. If she was rude to you and your husband doesn't care for associating with her either, just shred her Christmas card and forget that she ever existed. It doesn't make sense to send Christmas card to someone you don't like.
And if you want to tell her to back off. Send her a separate note telling her just that. Don't ruin a perfectly good Christmas greeting.
Christmas cards are not for the purpose of settling scores. Merry Christmas to you and yours.
2006-12-11 05:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not send one. There is no absolute requirement that you have to send a return card, especially if the person's card was unwelcome to begin with. The next best option would be for you to write it and sign it, "the ____ family wishes you a merry christmas" or something impersonal.
2006-12-11 05:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send a message back that goes something like this... We enjoyed the trip also. And we look forward to seeing you on the next trip also. Have a Very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Signed --------------- She'll get the hint.
2006-12-11 05:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, yes by all means send THE CARD with just you signing. Tell her something like this.
Mary, that you so much for the Christmas card, it was thoughtful to think of US. This year Jim and I have decided to try something different for our vacation, so unfortunately we won't be seeing you again. Merry Christmas, Marie.
This is going to let her know to back off.
2006-12-11 05:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok, the best way to deal with this women is to cut her off before she can go any further. Chances are, you never will bump into her again unless you stay in contact. Don't send any card. If you and your husband do not like this women, give her a hint! Don't respond to this inconsiderate action from her.
2006-12-11 05:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by balletchica 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she was rude to you but was kind to your husband, makes me wonder what she is really up to. Sounds like to me she may have an infactuation with your husband and btw how did she get your address? Im sure since she was rude to you that you didnt give it to her, that means your husband did. Why would you give someone your address if you did not like them? Don't feel obligated to send a card to someone just because they sent one to you. I personally would not send a card.
2006-12-11 05:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by PNutty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you still have the envelope, you could be a little devious, and put the card back in (seal it back up), circle your address on the envelope and write something along the lines of "no longer resides here". She will think you guys moved and won't be sending anything else.
2006-12-11 06:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋