Ok, my husband lives abroad and I'm worried that he might be cheating, he smelt of womens perfume when he came home last night and well, he hasn't been exactly faithfull in the past.
2006-12-11 05:42:36 · 25 answers · asked by Cass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Confront him about it. If he denies it, just keep an eye on it. If you notice this again, your suspision is probably right, so say goodbye to him. You deserve better!
2006-12-11 05:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by balletchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the Question? If you're asking for help to determine wether he's cheating or not there are many suggestions:
1. Call the show Cheaters they'll do it all for free
2. Get a spyware program called a keylogger. It will send you reports over teh email of everything he types online. (You need to install it on his computer and then run his antivirus..once the antivirus program sees the keylogger program you set it to ignore the keylogger everytime it scans.)
3. Hire a detective yourself.
4. Stalk him yourself.
5. Move to where he is and stay with him...
It seems that there are so many options and what you're really asking for help with is blind reassurance from people who don't know diddly that everythings okay. It's almost as if your'e afraid and you don't want to find out but you're in denial. My advice, confront him face to face. You'll know in your gut if it's true or not. Be brave and if you don't want him to cheat, move whereever he moves, you have to be together and sexually please each other fully if he's not going to stray. Handle your man girl!!!
2006-12-11 05:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't have gotten back together with him in the first place unless I felt he was truely trustworthy. You need to call him out but using a very rational sense of thought.
Simple say...look I would rather you leave me then endanger my life by sleeping with someone else behind my back. He doesn't have to own up to anything, but just ask him this,"If you have ever loved me, ever...even if just a little...please don't put my life in danger. What if I went and had unprotected sex with someone and gave you a disease? How awful would that be? If you are cheating on me...then maybe we shouldn't be together and just leave it at that. Additionally, I don't trust you at this point in our lives and I don't want to live my life worried about it all the time."
Nobody wants to be the jealous wife and he is turning you into that. You can remove yourself from the situation or continue to ask strangers for advice. It's really up to you.
2006-12-11 05:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he go out dancing that sometimes accounts for the perfume but if is the type to be unfaithful he more than likely messing around again. Once a cheater always a cheater. When I was married got so tired of smelling all those different brands of cologne and he told me I don't like you wear cologne I just like clean soap smell. I told him they must have high priced soap where you hang out all different brands.
2006-12-11 05:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went threw this once with my husband and stayed with him, but if he ever does it again i will be gone before he can even try to say sorry. Please find out if he is cheating by asking him and do not let up en till you know if he is being truthful. Just remember if he is it is not your fault your a special person and can find someone who deserves your love!!
2006-12-11 06:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He smelled of perfume and cheated before - what else do you need to know? That should be all the evidence you need.
2006-12-11 05:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So... follow him or hire someone else to do it for you. If you THINK he's cheating, then he probably is cheating. Women seem to have that sixth sense about them. We KNOW when something isn't quite right.
2006-12-11 05:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl you are sooooo in denial. Sweetheart stop asking obvious questions on here and go and see for yourself what your man is doing. Because you are the type that won't believe it until you see it!
2006-12-11 05:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he is in good mood first express your love for him then ask "dont you care for me?" and then tell him straight forward what you are feeling about him these days and ask him what the problem is ? why he is not taking interest in you?
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2006-12-11 06:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by ali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..its very hard to decide...
but you have to be loved like everybody else...sit down together and talk about it...if he admits there is only one solution....
2006-12-11 05:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋