my friends son got taken away at 3 months and he is now 10 months. the grandmother was trying to get him back and just now gave up. i was wondering how hard would tit be for me to try and get him. my son is 5 months and me and my fiance want 3 children 2 of our own and one to adopt. i live in canada so any information would help. SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY. THANKYOU
2006-12-11 05:35:13 · 6 answers · asked by miraclebaby_2006 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was there through everything; seeing him born to babysitting all the time so watching him for his last week so you can probably have an idea that i am well attatched
2006-12-11 05:36:50 · update #1
we live on our own and are getting married
2006-12-11 06:02:53 · update #2
and my friend doesnt care about her son even before he was born always using threats of abortion and she hasnt even called to see how her son is doing in the cfs home hes in and hasnt seen him either
2006-12-11 06:03:47 · update #3
Unless you are a biological relative to this little boy it may be a fight to gain custody. My advice is to get a good adoption attorney and let them know how much it means to you to have this child in your life and you in his. I am glad you want to adopt because coming from someone who was also adopted that is the greatest gift you can give. You may run into trouble seeing as you are not married yet but if you can show proof of a date they may work with you. Hang in there and don't give up. You and your fiance are heros in my eyes just by wanting to adopt this child.
2006-12-11 05:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to do anything, you would need to move soon. The longer he lives with a foster family, the more he becomes attached to them. If they are a stable, loving family that wants to adopt, then they may have preference. The main thing is that this child have a stable and loving upbringing--not traded back and forth. If the grandmother had trouble (and I know that in the US blood relatives have priority), I suspect that you may as well, unless the grandmother had issues that made it difficult. You will probably need to talk to a lawyer and see how you would need to proceed with an adoption and what your chances would be in your particular province.
2006-12-11 13:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to take your friend's child?
I don't know how hard it would be to adopt a child that is in custody of Child and Family Services.. you'd have to find out the circumstances surrounding the reason he was taken, and find out the hold that the mother and father still have on the child. If he's just in protective custody until the 'problem' is fixed, then they're not going to give the child to anyone.
There's alot of other questions that you need to find the answer to before this one can be answered. Call Child and Family Services and tell them what you want, call a Family Lawyer.. they give free advice.
2006-12-11 13:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope for your sake that you're either no longer friends with the mother of the child or if you are, that they don't have a problem with you attempting to adopt. Because as noble as it is to adopt a needy child, it's a bit of a slap in the face to your "friend." Not that it's wrong to do, just be aware of the consequences.
2006-12-11 13:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by raduodogi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do and you're hardly in a position to offer a baby a stable home- you're having children out of wedlock and shacking up with a boyfriend. Unless you have thousands and thousands of dollars to spend on legal fees, you won't even get close.
2006-12-11 13:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a better chance being married with a secure income and living arrangements
2006-12-11 13:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋