They were together for 10 years.
2006-12-11 05:35:13 · 11 answers · asked by Ther 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suggest just being there for her, let her get it all out, be her rock and her shoulder to cry on. my advice is to NOT put him down and talk about how awful he is, its okay to admit what he did was wrong, selfish, and not necessary but bashing him might hurt her more in the long run especially if in the long run theyre able to work things out. Dont say anything you might regret later. And it might help to ask her.. how would you feel if this happened to one of your friends like me? use you as an example so you can find out how she feels... the best thing you can do is listen. lots of unconditional love, dont judge, and be sympathetic!! good luck!
2006-12-11 05:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably shouldn't say anything except, "I'm so sorry." And then do a LOT of LISTENING. That's what she needs now. A shoulder to cry on and a good listening ear. Because it's possible they might get through this and get married. So you don't want to diss him right now. She'll hold that against you later. If they don't get back together, she will see that it's for the best. He didn't really love her. But she'll need lots of time to get over this. So just be there for her.
2006-12-11 05:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is her fiance...i'm pretty sure she's in love with him, and he is also with her..some guys cheat especially near marriage to get that one "last lay" before the "lifetime commitment"...my advise would to be there and show her that you care, but DON'T talk trash about him, tell her to find someone else, or treat him like crap...this is solely due to the chance that she may continue her relationship with him, and the 3 of your relationship will be viewed differently...she'll always have that thought in her mind that you can't stand him, and she'll be confused between you and him...he'll see you as a different person and not respect you as you'd like...and you'll always be knowing what you've said, and wish you hadn't...trust me, this has happend on my end, my best friend got back with him, and afterward i felt like crap cuz of all i have said...just show her you're sincere, and you'll back her up no matter what...the decisions and words should come out of her..you'll be glad you did this :)
2006-12-11 05:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by dre o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's dumping him right? I don't know what you can say to make her feel better, seems like a thing that will take time to work through, they were together for 10 years, so it's almost like a divorce....it will be tough, but she's probably a lot better off without him...
2006-12-11 05:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. She needs all the support she can get right now. No matter what she decides to do, be there for her without judgement. Listen to her without asking too many questions. Just be her friend.
2006-12-11 05:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is still "fiance" after 10 years there are bigger problems.
2006-12-11 05:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there when she needs to talk. ANd remind her that she is lucky this happened now instead of after they were married. He sounds like a complete a--. Glad she's rid of him.
2006-12-11 05:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get busy doing other things; don't sit around for hours crying and moaning over the jerk. Go have fun.
2006-12-11 05:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her, and let her know that what he did was a horrible thing to do. whatever she decides to do you will be there to help her and support her. the key to helping her get through it all is to make yourself available. good luck to her and tell her to hang in there.
2006-12-11 05:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by n3rdluvr2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its going to be rough. first if she hasn't broken off the engagement yet she should. it is going to be very hard for your friend to trust men again for along time. just be there for her if she ever needs to talk
2006-12-11 05:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋