(ONLY for)Genuine/Sincere Men in LTR/serious relationships-PLEASE?

Question

Lots of women will appreciate your honest, genuine, sincere responses.
oK--youLOVE your woman, think she is totally hot in appearance and who she is and you both enjoy lots of great sex. She is basically a dignified woman in the street and a wild one in bed--lots of mulit-O's, toys, tries it all, gives you all too ( exc. third party). Does it all-- even make your own videos.
BUT
You still have some your old porn dvds; some new ones and still watch them----
She isn't into them at all and is a one-man woman--she clearly isn't a window shopper, obsessive shoe buyer and thinks her guy is totally hot--
genuine responses please:
1.why do you still watch?

2.if you can whack one out in the shower--then the "visual" explanation doesn't really stand true?

3. is it the fake sex or the fake girl?

4.do you imagine you are f*****g them?

5.If it's so great at home-and is REAL, then doesn't the porn seem sort of stupid and boring?

6.do you compare your woman to the porn?
thnx

AJAX
thanks for being honest and sincere and considerate--I would pose a ? to you for your GF... would she feel bad knowing you imagine you are doing it with the porn girl? Would you feel bad knowing that your GF might imagine being with some porn guy?

Answer 1

You guys don't honestly think the chicks in porn are really having all those orgasms do you? You know, rarely does a woman have one from being done like a battering ram....if you guys still need porn when you have a woman willing to do everything you want you have a lack of emotional attachment.

Answer 2

1.why do you still watch? Cuz its exciting...she has some fantasies she keeps secret...why not live out some of my fantasies through the power of video?

2.if you can whack one out in the shower--then the "visual" explanation doesn't really stand true? Well, I'm not one for whacking in the shower but the absence of visual stimuli doesn't mean it doesn't exist. If there is no visual stimuli in front of you, then you are imaging it in your head so...in a sense...there is always visua stimuli.

3. is it the fake sex or the fake girl? Who said its fake sex? Its a little of both. Sometimes people do some nasty stuff on video that you would never do to your partner and that makes it more interesting.

4.do you imagine you are f*****g them? Yeah, sometimes in a fantasy sort of way.

5.If it's so great at home-and is REAL, then doesn't the porn seem sort of stupid and boring? No. Again, she has some fantasies that she would like to live out but keeps them secret so what is wrong with the guy living out some of his fantasies?

6.do you compare your woman to the porn? No. Porn is fantasy...your woman is real. Sometimes, your woman acts like the woman in porn which can be exciting too but there is no expectation that she must be as dirty as the porn star.
thnx

Answer 3

1. Porn is an addiction. Don't know what it is about it, but it is.
2. Even in the shower you are probably thinking of porn you looked at or someone else, you're not "just" whack in it.
3. It's most likely the girl, something you can't have or wish you could.
4. Typically, yes. There are times when it just stimulates you, and then you think of something else, but often yes.
5. As previously stated, it does seem stupid, but it's often an addiction. Pornography can certainly be destructive to relationships.
6. Not typically, if at all. When you're looking at porn you are often imagining what you are seeing and being in the situation (or some other fantasized situation).

It does suck. I would be honest with your man and ask him these same questions. Ask him if he "could" give it up if you wanted him to. This is tough, because you want to be open, accepting, and want to let your spouse know you trust them, but at the same time, if something bothers you he should also respect that. If there are addictions involved, you will need to be patient and forgiving. Good luck.

Answer 4

Men are VERY visual creatures. We are chemically wired differently. The reason I would see him holding on to old movies is because there might be certain shots or acts that just get him fired up. I used to have some favorite movies put away that I would use to "take care of business" when I felt the need to. That doesn't mean he's not totally into you and doesn't love you. On the contrary it may inspired him to be more of an animal with you. It's also like having that favorite poster of a hot rod in his garage, it's a guy thing. Now if he's obsessing on his videos too much then it's a problem.

Answer 5

For one thing men are hunters, we may be faithful but we still fantasize. This is in no way a reflection of our relationship with you, but to us sex really is sex. There doesn't have to be an emotional attatchment for us to enjoy it. My girlfriend understands this and isn't jealous of porn because she knows if I want the real thing I'll only go to her. Would you rather us cheat or do some harmless fantasy? By nature men are extremely sexual, sometimes we need an outlet for our natural urge to have sex with everything! Knowing all of this I'll now answer your questions in order. #1. Fantasizing keeps us from straying, we don't have to actually do it but the urge is still there. ALL men want to sleep with other people, we don't because we love you. We want to be monogomaus but it's against our nature. #2. When we do this we are fantasizing and it's convenient...no fuss no muss. #3. Both. It's something different, it's satifying our urge to dominate have random sex without cheating. Don't take this personally it's our nature we could fight this urge but if we didn't it'd be like giving a loaded gun to a monkey. #4. Yes and no, sometimes we imagine it's just a dirtier version of you. #5. Again no matter how open you are there are some things we want, that we know you won't do. Not to mention it's something different from the every day. #6. No...just something different.

Answer 6

a million. Porn is an habit. do not comprehend what it truly is about it, even with the undeniable fact that it truly is. 2. Even interior the bathe you're more often than not considering porn you regarded at or somebody else, you at the instantaneous are not to any extent further "purely" whack in it. 3. it truly is easily the lady, something you are able to't have or choose you would. 4. regularly, particular. There are circumstances at the same time as it purely stimulates you, and also then you assume of something else, even with the undeniable fact that almost continually particular. 5. As before known, it does seem boring, even with the undeniable fact that it truly is almost continually an habit. Pornography can maximum in all possibility be risky to relationships. 6. no longer generally, if in any appreciate. once you're gazing at porn you're almost continually imagining what you're seeing and being interior the disaster (or yet another fantasized disaster). It does suck. i'd be honest such as your guy and ask him those equivalent questions. Ask him if he "would" furnish it up once you wanted him to. that's complicated, because the you want to be open, accepting, and favor to allow your better 0.5 comprehend you've self belief them, even with the undeniable fact that at the same time as, if something bothers you he ought to also comprehend that. If there are addictions in contact, you'll will be sufferer and forgiving. good success.

Answer 7

Men are very sexual, visually-stimulated machines. In saying this it should explain the whole situation, yes we love our woman and we enjoy the great sex with them, but we like to see other women naked also....its just us. Don't take it personal. A lot of women think that they are not good enough, or what's wrong with them, they let their insecurities take over. The fact is that men are just following their nature. They are not necessarily cheating on their women (unless they act on those fantasies), if fact they are keeping from it by simply watching it and getting the gratification that way instead of going out and doing it with another woman. It also helps us to keep stimulated and in high gear for our women.

Answer 8

If I may.

If I was into that (and I was for the longest time) there was no need for the porn. I shifted to the porn when the sex was shifted away from me.

I use it to remind me what sex could be like (event hough it is all phony)

Answer 9

You shouldn.t id your women offers you that much sex with as many twists as you can think of then you should be satisfied. If not then they're is something else missing from the equation. And probably means that they should not be together.

Answer 10

Men are not naturally monogamous.
Can I be any plainer than that? You could be the most beautiful wonderful woman in the world and he'd still want to have sex with someone else. It's male nature.