I love my boyfriend very much, i cant even think of my life without him, each and every moment i care for him, but he ignores me in each and every thing, he some times bang the phone on me and again he himself calls me back, i dont know whats happening between us, he has never told he loves me even once, but i love him very much i really cant live with out him, can anyone help me to change him and i want him plz i dont know what to do.
2006-12-11 05:31:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your neediness & clinginess is driving him away. It's pathetic. Guys hate that.
2006-12-11 05:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen hunny, i am 19 and i was with my bf for 4 years. he was good in the beggining and than he changed like yours. he never told me he loved me unless he wanted something. he banged the phone and more to me and they he would call or say he is sorry and it would not happen again. i thought i could not live wth out him and that i was in love but in rality i took a step outside myself and watched what went on and relized he isnt anygood and that you can not change a man no matter how hard you try or think you can. it not going to get any better and you need to think about if he is really the one you wanna be with and if it is you are going to have to live with the way he is baecause no matter how hard you try you cant change him only he can change himself.
2006-12-11 05:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by ~giggles~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. take him by the hand and go some place quiet. tell him whats been on ur mind and let him know it bothers you. why is he banging the phone??( that sounds mean) he's ur bf so u shouldn't be afraid to speak ur mind it won't kill u. just talk to him because he's not going to know what's wrong if u don't talk about it. guys aren't like us females they don't see things the way we do chances are he sees nothing wrong with his behavior so it's ur job to call him out on it because it obviously bothers you. please don't tell him u can't live without him never let a guy think u need him because he'll use it to his advantage. but if he doesn't change move on why stay with someone who doesn't show u the love u want
2006-12-11 05:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i know someone told you "you cant change anyone" you are not a higher power. If you really want him to notice you check his slow *** and leave him high and dry he will have no clue what happened because he was not paying attention. the best thing for you to do is move on and live a better life people like that hate that because they only want to keep you from becoming a better person.
2006-12-11 11:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by fay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon sorry to break it to you but its obvious that you are crazy about him and that he isn't in love with or doesn't seem to interested in you especially since he ignores you. What good bf ignores his gf? I say dump him he is a loser. I know thats not what you want to hear. But think about it. It sounds like your more infatuated with him and that your not really in love with him. Love and infatuation can get mixed up sometimes. Good luck you will find a great bf soon I'm sure.
2006-12-11 05:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not change him. Sounds like the classic guy trick of being mean to the woman so they have to leave and the guy has no guilt about being the bad guy and breaking up the relationship- End it, move onto happier things
2006-12-11 05:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him and it sounds to me that he is just keeping you there for when he wants you. You should have more respect for yourself and try to move on and find someone who actually cares about you. I think once you do you'll realize it wasn't love at all that you are feeling for this guy.
2006-12-11 05:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i was in the same situation and i asked her what to do and teh same thing that i told you they told me and i did i was with him for teh past 1 year and 6 months, so i really dont know how long you been with this guy but what you need to do is just dumped that guy. Girl you deserved somthing beeter and if you keep on in the back of him looking for him he would know that he has you on check so girl just dumped him. tell me how you feel take care LA ANGELITA
2006-12-11 05:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by laangelita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself .
What happens if he leaves you or if he dies?
Do you want to be broken and crushed in life?
The awnser is obvious. You know you need to start loving your life and depending on yourself, or god if you believe in that.
Putting your life and happiness into the hands of one person is a sin against yourself and it will only lead to misery and you know it.
We all need people in our lives but to put all your energy and future in the one is a sure fire route to depression.
2006-12-11 05:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by james l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do u want him? is it because he wont fully give himself to u? u need to really objectively look at this relationship and see if it is healthy if it's only one-sided get out u deserve better like some1 who will fully love u don't settle for less or u will never really b happy love urself enough to do this for ur self
2006-12-11 05:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by trina f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to be with someone who doesn't love you? and yes you can live without him, start learning how! Time to move on.
2006-12-11 05:33:43 · answer #11 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋