And all the rest of it. Do those words really have any power these days. I cast no judgement whatsoever and can only hope that i will never be in that position but would be interested to hear what other people think.
2006-12-11 05:30:42 · 8 answers · asked by tomytiptoes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think "till death do us part" hardly as ANY MEANING these days... seriously. Half of married couples get divorced. It's sad really. I wish more people would follow those vows and stand firm to them.
I understand those who cheat or are in an abusive relationship... under extreme circumstances like that. But if it's something like "irreconcilable differences".. that's just ridiculous to me.
2006-12-11 05:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always told myself that there was no way in hell that I was ever going to say 'Until death do us part' if I ever got married. I was bound and determined that when I got married, it was going to be to someone that I loved and couldn't live without, and that any vows I said I would live by.. because marriage is scared. But I was not going to say 'Until death do us part' because if something happened, I would be able to leave with a clear conscience.
But, then I met a man, and got married.. and I said it.. because it's not about the words, it's about the meaning that they hold. I believe that there are still people who think these words have a meaning that's more than words. There are still people who stick together through thick and thin, sickness and heath...
Marriage is work, and your marriage vows tell you that. You have to be prepared for what is ahead. No marriage is all roses and snowflakes.. it's hard work and determination to keep your lives happy.. and vows.. it's a promise that you're not going to skip out at the first wrong thing.. it means that you're going to work to fix those things that are wrong, and keep each other happy.. until death parts you.
2006-12-11 13:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the joining of two people who become one under God. God hates divorce and what He has joined together man should not tear apart. This is why the phrase in the Christian church is, "till death do you part." We are each expected to find someone to love and if we marry them it should be forever or at least until one dies. If there is a widow or widower who finds another one to love then it is ok to include the phrase if desired, otherwise No. I recommend you not marry until you find the love of your life and know he is the one.
2006-12-11 13:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think couples should write their own vows, leaving out "till death" unless they want that in. Those antiquated vows are just that -- outdated and no longer relevant. What about "to love, honor and obey"? I could not say the "obey" part now. If I were to get married again, I would write my own vows and only say what I mean.
2006-12-11 13:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, these words don't hold the power they once did. It's something to say that sounds nice. But I'm sure when everyone gets married, they really believe these words and mean them when they say them.
2006-12-11 13:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage now a days i think is a joke for most people...because they can get a divorce if it doesnt work...if the government would outlaw divorce like they do everything else, there would be a lot less people getting married just for the "fun" of it.
2006-12-11 13:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol it's only our first marriage(and last) but i'm pretty sure we didn't get married FOR death,.... until death but not FOR hahahahaha
2006-12-11 13:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vows are irrelevent, as irrelevent as a paper that syas you are married.
2006-12-11 13:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋