Knowing what you know now,living it every day, if you were given the chance would you marry your spouse again?

Answer 1

Yes. I have been married ten years now and we've been through it all. We had a fairy tale romance. Fairy tale wedding. Beautiful little girl. Our marriage started out like a dream. Then reality hit- we had a house that was a money pit... high stress...for two solid years. As soon as it was fixed, we moved and on the day after we closed on our new house, my father in-law died. My father in-law was a wealthy man, and my husband was an only child, and a creative, not a business man, and was named executor of the estate. For three years, we carried out the wishes of his father's estate, until he couldn't handle it anymore. The stress was too much and my husband had a nervous breakdown. A woman he used to work with had been trying to get him to sleep with her for two years to no avail, and during this time period, she saw her opportunity to sneak in when he was most vunerable. She fortunately had moved to another state, but that didn't stop her from offering "cyber-sex" to my husband. She had been recently dumped by her husband, and was looking for someone to pay her way. She offered my husband literally "anything, anywhere, anytime, discreetly, no strings attached". To my husband, who was drowning in stress, he saw this as an escape. There was no love, no emotion involved (I saw all the correspondence). In fact, he used to make fun of her physically because she's let's just say not been given the best genetics. But, when you're on-line, you can make a person into whatever you want. This went on for months, and he did end up meeting her in person where he consumed $150 worth of alcohol before having sex with her. They continued having 'cyber-sex' over the internet for a total of seven months. She pushed for him to leave me, and join her in her "swinging singles" lifestyle. He came to me for a divorce. I had no clue. I knew my husband had been stressed out, but other than him being the on and off "******", I was in shock- no sex problems, no nothing. He informed her that he'd asked me for a divorce, and her response was "we can get married now!". This woke him up. This made his reality colide with his imagination, and shocked him into waking up as this was a woman he would not even be seen with in public, let alone marry. He admitted to everything while barely being able to talk amongst the crying and we went into counseling. This was over a year ago. We are solid. We've grown, we share more now, and we have a better marriage now than ever. So, yes, knowing what I know, living it everyday, I would marry him again. And for you out there that think recovery from cheating is not possible, you need to get stronger. Leaving is the easy way out. Choosing to stay, and work through things and confront those things most people won't talk about takes strength and togetherness and will make or break your love. People are flawed and will succumb to making mistakes when life loads too much stress on them. The breaking point is different for everyone, but when you marry, don't marry unless you are serious about taking the good with the bad. The bad can be worse than you ever thought, and the good can be more rewarding than your wildest imagination. Commit to your marriage, and take it seriously, or your marriage has no meaning.

Answer 2

Probably not. I'm not so disappointed with my spouse as I am with the things that come with being married. I just don't think that knowing what I know now that I'd bother with the formality. I think it's a great institution and romantic and binding etc. But, I would be just as happy cohabitating in a monogamous relationship than I am in what is essentially a legal union for the sake of taxes and property ownership. I know I sound bitter, but married life and all the BS that comes with it just creates too much noise and interference between the two people in the relationship. I'd never remarry again even if it were Anna Kournikouva with a bucket of Vaseline and a bushel of carrots.

Answer 3

I hope everyone says yes to this, otherwise.. they shouldn't be married to the person that they're married too. Think about it, if you wouldn't marry your spouse if you had the chance to turn back time and do it all over again, why did you marry them to begin with?

Answer 4

That's something I ask myself alot because if I knew he would be a terrible father I would not have had children with him. If I knew how angry and tempermental he was I don't know if I would have married him. He's changed over the last 10 years and has become very difficult to live with.

Answer 5

Yes, I would marry my husband again in a heartbeat.If I knew then what I know now I would have married him quicker.

Answer 6

No. I would not. I have been married to my husband for 9 years - and its 9 years too long.

Answer 7

Yes, absolutely! But I wouldn't have my sister in law or brother in law stand up in the wedding again. Our wedding went perfectly but there are problems now with this couple...a year later and we don't want to be around them anymore.

Answer 8

NO, Sometimes things are just not meant to be. I think people can either bring out the good-or-the bad in each other. In my case, we were like adding fuel to open flame. I wish him happiness elsewhere.

Answer 9

yes and only yes if she wre willing to work together to make it work and because no matter what happen between us before and we were foolish enough not to work through it,I still believe God's angel put us together but it was our unfaithfullness to the lord and his ways that tore our marriage apart.Thanks for asking.

Answer 10

Absolutely not. I should have climbed in may car and driven about 1000 miles away or more.