We are in our 40's and have our own business. Yes its stressful working with each other, but that's a whole different topic, the problem is my husband doesn't want to work, we have others working for us and they keep the money coming in. I work in/on the business every day 24/7 it seems. He definately is not putting as much time/effort into this as I am - I SOOOO WANT TO FIRE him, but I personally need his income. How can I motivate him to get involved?
2006-12-11 05:27:18 · 14 answers · asked by inmyprime 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
It's virtually impossible to make someone want something they don't want. So, in most cases, instead of trying that, try something else that achieves your same goal. Some ideas:
1. Ask him what he wants to do, what he's dreamed of doing. He might leave the business, but get into something where he produces even more income. Problem solved.
2. If he's done the same thing over and over and lost interest, can you switch him to a completely different role in the business? For example, he's been service, can he do sales? If he's been sales, can he be manufacturing? Could you and he swap roles? Thinking outside the box, really shaking things up, is what is required here.
Rereading your question, I'm wondering:
* Regarding: "I work in/on the business every day 24/7 it seems." Is this level of work absolutely necessary? What would happen if you just did a standard 40 hours per week? Could you hire someone to pickup part of your workload? Why are you working so much harder than your husband? If it is just personality difference, maybe you need to accept him as he is.
* Regarding: "...I SOOOO WANT TO FIRE him, but I personally need his income". All this implies that both of you are unhappy with the way things are. It may be that you need to find a way to phase him out of the business, just for peace-of-mind. Then solve the money issue some other way.
2006-12-11 05:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you communicate about things other than work ? Like maybe he needs a physical, there may be a reason. He may be depressed. Do you show any compassion toward one another.? Why don't you make the first move to ask him if he's feeling O.K.?
Have some fun together, get busy at saving your marriage because it seems to me it is in need of HELP. Take some inventory of your life together and see if you can figure out what you once had going that you could put a little love and concern into again .
Best of luck to you though if he has just gotten fat and lazy and you MUST CARRY THE LOAD.
Motivate him with kindness and soft words and tell him in those kind of words how much you need his input. A change of scenery might be a great help together or alone for a few days . Whatever works best. Your a woman and I am too and I think we both have enough common sense to know that you gather more Bees with Honey. Right ?? You are going to do just fine because you are not to proud to reach out. God Bless Y'all and Have Yourselves A Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year.
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2006-12-11 14:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bored...? Yes...that could definitely is the answer. But it is not only because of the work itself, it might also be because of the working environment, the business objectives is getting blur, keep on doing the same thing over and over again, no challenged to push him further or he might getting bored with the type of business that he runs before.
So, the best way is try to find the reasons why he is changing. Do NOT get mad at him all the time cos it's going to give you more stress, which is in the other hand is not good for your health. Once you have the answer, try to give suggestions on what he could do or how to get him more excite with his job and especially life. Discussion is the best methods in maintaining a relationship and getting a problems to solve.
Hope that could help you a lot. ;-)
2006-12-11 13:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by prcsty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what it is that he would like to get out of working at the business. My husband and I have a business and we've both gotten that way a couple of times. He's maybe bored with it or feels like there's something else he'd rather do.
In any case, it's normal and he just has to find something worth working for. Talk to him and maybe take a week off (totally) with him if possible. Burn out is a common factor too. Are you spending any quality time away from work?
2006-12-11 13:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mama R 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you've noticed and tell him you'd be happy to do it alone or hire in a new person if he wanted to do something else.
If he's going to drag you down or cause the business to fail, he needs to see what he's doing and how unfair it is.
Maybe he'll perk up once he realizes that
And if you need his income he needs to know that (he probably already should) If he persists in slumping, write up a budget that doesn't include his income. My bf was thinking of losing his job, and so I put on paper what we'd be able to afford with just my salary, and he straightened out quickly.
2006-12-11 13:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's getting bored with it. Men go thru mid-life crisis too. Would it be feasable to sell the business and live off the profits or invest in something else at this point? Buy his half out and fire him. Let him go to work for someone else.
2006-12-11 13:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Deb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a tricky situation. First of all I would ask him what his intentions are for the company. Then after listening to his points, I would counter with the company's needs regarding his full participation.
2006-12-11 13:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by J.C. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is getting boring to him! Everyone gets to a point to were they need a change in employment! I would really talk to him about if he is maybe getting bored with the job or not!
2006-12-11 13:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should sit down and talk it out, see whats on his mind, whats the reason for him to do what he is doing. I guess talking it out will help both to better understand the issues you'll are facing.
2006-12-11 13:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by browne_allan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What has caused him to lose his drive?
When yo solve that riddle, you may get him remotivated
2006-12-11 13:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋