I want to have a baby...its this urge inside of me...i cant get over it...i see a child and i want one of my own! i am only nineteen but i cant stop thinking about having sex with my bf and getting pregnant and to top it off im ovulating sometime this week and im ugh my god is this normal? Please tell me how hard it is to have a child like the pain of labor etc becuz ugh you just dont know how much i want one...i get jealous when i see women and girls my age with children! Why? What is happening/ Are my hormones messing up my head/ i just got off birth control becuz i wanted to feel normal and be healthy but is this a side effect? i am seriously really in the mood for sex and a child plz help me
2006-12-11 05:23:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
im not going to preach to you like everyone else...i am also 19 and i sometimes get the same feeling..me and my bf are best friends with another couple and they have twin 2 yr old boys..cutest things in the world. i miss them when we leave..they are so loving and sweet. ive asked her about all of it before..she said that labor feels like period pain times10 which is tolerable..if it werent there wouldnt be so many kids..anyway..i know how you feel and i get excited about it. if you want to talk about any of this more..my email is brittni@solite.us
2006-12-11 06:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by just_me2032 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby should be a mutual decision between you and your boyfriend when you are both ready. By the sounds of it, your hormones are just all over the place, making you think the way you are... Womens sex drive has been a taboo subject for so long: women are only recently allowed to have a sex drive!! The best thing to do is wait. Children are a huge commitment, financially, emotionally, physically - its someone else to care for for the rest of your life - children don't stop being children at 18... they're around permanantly. They need unconditional love and care. The best time to offer that to a child is in a stable relationship when you've got a job to help you provide for the child and give it the best you can. So at nineteen, I don't think you're ready. Use another form of birth control than the pill that wont mess up your hormones so much, or see a doctor about changing your birth control to level out your hormones.
2006-12-11 06:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of two wonderful children, They are a huge responsibility. My youngest son is twelve and is multi handicap. He was born normal and quit breathing at three months. Stop and think about loving a child unconditionally, Everyone always imagines having a normal, perfectly happy child, and don't stop to consider the huge responsibility of caring for a child that is handicap. If you feel like you could love a child unconditionally then you may be ready,but I don't think you are.
2006-12-11 05:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by nickynoodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain of childbirth is minor compared the years of taking care of another person. You never know when you have a baby if it will be a normal pregnancy or if there will be complications with you or your baby. My youngest had a stroke before she was born. And if you think a baby is alot of work wait until they hit 13 or 14 and think they know more then you do. Get your education before you start think about having kids so if your man leaves you, you can support your kids on your own.
2006-12-11 06:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by quitoslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 y/o and I had my son when I was 23, which I know now was way too young so 19 is definitely too young to have child. Children are so much responsibility beyond what you think, all of my friends I went to high school with had at least one child ( I was the last one). When I saw them with their kids it looked so easy and fun. I do not regret my son but I wish I would have waited until I was like 35!!!!! You have no freedom, they are priority over everything else that you may want to do and trust me your going to want to do something and can't and you are way too young for that responsibility, you have plenty of time to get married FIRST and have children. Don't rush it, you be making a huge mistake. I go to school, work, and I have to raise my son alone!!! His father is not in the picture at all. It is a huge responsibility and do not be jealous of your friends because they are probably more jealous of you. You are only 19 you are way to young, when you get older you see things differently and you might want to do something different with you life. Its much easier when you only have yourself to think about.
2006-12-11 05:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 08:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by pharisien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are worried about the pain of childbirth...then you are not mature enough to be a mother.
2006-12-11 05:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is dumb
2006-12-11 05:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋