She simply asks:
After a long trip - what can i do for him when he comes home?
I think this is in fact what it is all about. What can I do to please my spouse? If both people really lived this way I think far more marriages would be happy and last. Can you honestly say you live this way. If not why not? Of course this is a two way street but why would you not do this? If you are not I think you invite trouble and possibly temptation. What do you think?
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2006-12-11 05:20:39 · 10 answers · asked by onlineseeker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I absolutely agree with you. My bf and I will eventually marry and we already have this type of relationship. When he comes home from work, he offers to help in the kitchen but, I always have him sit down with a cold drink and we share our day together. On weekends, he treats me like a princess....he does all the cooking. I love the fact that we are very conscientious about each others feelings and well being. I know that neither of us will ever stray because, we are each other's best friends. I love our relationship and we do get alot of critism from outsiders because I am classed as the '50's style housewife. I don't care what other's think....this is our relationship, it's a two way street and our's will survive. Thank you for sharing your view point. I think it's very important that we do more for our spouses and vice versa.
2006-12-11 05:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did, it didn't matter. You should always give more than you take. I didn't invite temptation, my husband didn't respect me and took me for granted. He also accused me of cheating on him for years, I finally met somebody that worth risking everything for. I have no regrets, the only guilt I feel if for not believing my own intuition. By him not living my the rules I lived by he invited temptation into the marriage.
2006-12-11 05:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own..."
"Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person, it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer. To be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly.
In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing whether your love is something real."
2006-12-11 05:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my husband treated me like that i would most certainly treat him like that too. i tried this idea many times. the only problem is that my husband did not and does not recognize my efforts. instead of seeing that i cooked him dinner and left it over the stove for him to eat because i knew he would be hungry , he calls me lazy because i am laying on the couch with my son watching tv.
it is most definitely a two way street and both parties need to recognize the other one's efforts.
2006-12-11 05:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same thing. The world is so geared up about what I can get out of something. What is in it for me. How many times do we make time to do something extra for our spouse?
2006-12-11 05:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Becky F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yup
ideally ask that every morning or even a few times during the day
my wife likes when I cook food for her or follow orders
she doesn't try to please me anymore, so sometimes I feel like why should I even try.
it just kind of breaks down when that happens, very very sad
I figure we have to eat anyway so I still cook and I'm good at it too so why not.
2006-12-11 05:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completly agree- its all about the little things because when you add those together they become the bigger things.
def a two way street though
2006-12-11 05:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Totally confusing.
2006-12-11 05:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it Marriage is a dying INSTITUTION. Why would anyone in their right mind want to be in a institution.
2006-12-11 05:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋