I am a married woman of 4 years. I have 2 children one with my husband and 1 with my ex. Although I love my husband very much he is very boring, dosen't like to do anything but go to work, come home, watch television and drink. No time with me, or my children. He is just here. When I try and talk with him about it he claims he is "ALWAYS" tired and he just wants to relax at home. When I make plans to go out with my girlfriends and I don't come in when he feels that I should, he has a problem with that. I want my marriage to work and I am trying everything that I can to make it work but I'm just about out of options. By being in this situation it makes me remember all of the good times that my ex and I have and I also still have feelings for my oldest childs father. When we were together we were both young and he wasn't ready to stop playing the field. My ex still has feelings for me also. Any Suggetions.....
2006-12-11 05:15:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Spend some time with your kids.
2006-12-11 05:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah ... I can understand your problem. Men are so complex; yet all they seem to want to do, is watch TV. I wonder why that is. Its like they have a one-track mind ... "I just want to watch TV all the time." Men are funny like that. They say the average male, starting at puberty, thinks of television over a thousand times a day ... can you believe that? I wish I had some good advice to give about what he might want to do more, but I can't seem to think of anything. If you cannot figure out what I am talking about; you're gonna end up with a whole line of bored and boring ex's.
2006-12-11 13:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well quite a dilemma, I think you owe to your second husband to make him realize that you are slipping away and that you both need counseling. He may have very emotionally or physically draining job that he may feel trapped and very unhappy in.
Could be something else. I would exhaust all options with him before considering a switch. remember how your first also made you feel if he was cheating-He may want you back but not exclusively. It's not like he'd admit it though.
Give number 2 a real chance to address your issues. He may need to know there's help and options. He will have to agree to try though-Remember you can't push a rope. Good luck-don't be hasty in whatever you do- he deserves all your effort and an honest opportunity to turn things around.
2006-12-11 13:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your "Ex" will still have feelings for you, but for what reason? Is it because you belong to someone else, or is it because he'd like to have his "b___y" calls without having to make a commitment? He's still playing the field if he's after another man's wife (you). Having a man (your husband) these days whose trying to take care of his family is a rarity, so don't mess up what you have you would surely regret it. Set up a dinner for two and have someone watch the kids now & then to let your husband feel like you are interested in more than his supporting the family.
2006-12-11 13:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up and live the life you committed to. The children deserve to be ina loving home. You said that your husbands works and comes home. Believe me there are alot of women that are jealous of you. So grow aup and be a big girl you married this man for better or worse. Now is the time to put up with the worse.
2006-12-11 13:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the children. He may be bored, and you may be bored but the buck always stops with them. As the oldest child whose parents divorced (a few times), I can tell you that however difficult your life may seem working trough your relationships, it's always more traumatic for the kids. They need stability and at least one parent that's willing to put them first.
2006-12-11 13:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by aquaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didnt say if u were working to help support the family financially...if ur not working maybe u should get a job that way ur hubby isnt so tired all the time...as for ur ex well there is a reason he is ur ex and u have to keep that reason in mind...good luck
2006-12-11 13:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion: Stay with your husband and work it out. Remember and ex is an ex for a reason. Tell your husband you are lonely and need his companionship.
2006-12-11 13:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one that can decide what you really want. you have so much here to think about, mainly your two children.put them first. you have to decide why he is your ex and which one you truely love.search deep within your heart and soul and pray and you will find the answer. good luck
2006-12-11 13:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not bring yet a third person into the the drama you call life?
Or you could grow up and look at what is best for you children...........
2006-12-11 13:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats my husband i know what you are going through, but only have 1 child.
2006-12-11 13:21:42 · answer #11 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋