Okay I'm 12 and there is a school dance that is neither at my school or my bf's school that is coming up, now my bff has known my bf for as long as she can remember and she said that he said he was going to make out with me at the dance and honestly I've only made out with like 5 guys!!! I'm really nervous bcz it would be the first time with him!! What should I do, ANYTHING WILL HELP!!!! And by the way my bf is inthe same grade I am and he's from my old school , 6th grade and quarterback of the younger division of the high school's football team, + not a good thing, his best friend is my x-bf!! It's twisted I know!!! I know really young to have already made out wiht five guys but true and no I'm not a slut!! OKay and don't blame me it's the best category there was to put my question in!!
2006-12-11 05:12:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
OMG I didn't mean anything like having sex!! I know I'm not ready fro that DUH!!! I mean I know by my age you think I'm young but people think of me as if I were seventeen!! I've already went through all of that!!! And I don't appreciate people thinking that I'm too stupid to knwo that I shouldn't go NEAR that far!!! I'm just talking about making out not having sex!!!
2006-12-11 05:36:35 · update #1
Yeah ya made me feel kinda bad that is why 30 minutes from now I'm deleting my question before you guys make me feel any worse I mean sex come on and no my parents didn't fail me just am ready at a really young age I don't have any statistics or crap but you know I'd say that after 3 school years of having your period you've most likely made out with a guy!!! Yeah I started in the 3rd grade!! And you guys are psycho if u think it's wrong that I've done little more than kissing a guy!!!
2006-12-11 05:42:28 · update #2
Ohh and by the way thanks to all of ya out there who didn't get on my case about what I asked I thought you could help me but most of ya like I said in my quest treated me like an abseloute slut of a little girl!!!! I'm not I'm treated like a teen and I'd reallly aprecciate it if you treated me like that too!!!Ohh and I go to church and am saved and baptized so my parents are too so I am growing up in a strong Christian home so no my parents aren't failing me they're letting me make my decisions!!!
2006-12-11 05:47:24 · update #3
Sorry that is such a long question but there's still more!! I talked t ohim and his best friend tonight and they were all like how bout now I was like okay sure! SO we got into it (not that far) and I realized I was nervous bcz I loved him not bcz I wasn't ready!! UUhhhh it was nice!!! And you probably think I'm some city kid who sees this all day or something but I'm really not I go to a school where there is only 52 kids AND it's a public school!! I live in the middle of nowhere I have no neighbors closer than 2 miles away!!! So yeah not a city kid, a country redneck mature preteen!!
2006-12-11 13:17:19 · update #4
Sorry me again I wanted to add the dance is only 5th- 8th grade no high school kids allowed!! So he's a 6th grader,
2006-12-11 13:19:29 · update #5
and I DEFINETELY want ot make out with him!!
2006-12-11 13:20:51 · update #6
and btw I have straight A's so my grades definetely aren't a problem and my mom says it's fine as long as I don't take it any farther than making out!!!
2006-12-11 15:15:38 · update #7
Hope more people comment but if u think that I want to have sex well then you're crazy bcz I don't that till I'm married!!! And I knew u were gonna call me a s*ut!! I was called trashy by that penguin chick!! You make me mad and sick and boys have been important to me since like the second grade and I only got my first kiss in the end of the 5th grade!!! He knows he's not ready for sex!! My bff has already told me that she will brutally murder someone if I have sex with them before I'm at the very least 19!!!
2006-12-13 09:08:41 · update #8
bring breath mints but not too strong, it look like your trying when you have very minty breath. you'll be fine , looks like you have had practice. and dont stiffen up your mouth, keep it soft.
like the other ladies said, keep it slow and at kissing for now...your 12. Your whole life is ahead of you for other things. We learn from mistakes, but dont let having sex really young be one of yours.
2006-12-11 05:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by posquatch 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Making out with someone could be considered a lot of ways. I would need to know how old your boyfriend is and what you consider making out. If you are still friends with your ex and there are no emotions then that shouldn't be a problem. I think he would want to stick up for you too if the boyfriend didn't treat you right.
I would let the evening be fun and see what happens. Just be careful. You seem like you have strong convictions and a good head on your shoulders I'm concerned but I think you'll be fine. Just remember not to accept anything that you haven't ordered yourself, unless you completely trust the person. I also feel that the moment you become uncomfortable that you should call your mom and have her pick you up.
That being said have a good time at the dance and personally, when I was your age making out was just kissing. I think if he does anything to your bra that might be going a bit too far.
2006-12-11 07:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my lil sister was in this situation...I'd tell her that she's way too young, especially if you're going to be going to school with these people through highschool, you will get labeled.
You decide what your label is by how you handle yourself and how you act. I'd say you are way to young to be making out or dating you have so much growing up to do and if you are more like a 17 yr old like you say then you would realize that. Once you get older you will definately understand and look back on this and laugh.
Ultimately it is your decision. And the women on here are not mean they are looking out for you chances are they've been there. Also a mature young lady would realize that as well and be able to handle both sides of the spectrum, you can't expect everyone to agree with you. Good Luck!
P.S. ask your mom what she thinks about it!
2006-12-11 09:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by whitney h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are honestly complicating your life beyond anything you need it to be at this point.
You're making your furture growth and development into a well rounded emotionally secure adult impossible because you're jumping the gun and moving into romantic and sexual/physical relationships before you've had time to emotionally and mentally master the art of friendships. Something that is impossible for a 12 year old to have mastered.
Theres no good advice anyone can give you that you would take, and pleanty poor advice they could give you that you'd like to hear.
You make your own choices, and stop asking others. Its obvious you want to take your life down this course, you'll make your bed and lie in it. Theres nothing we can do to help you except try to convince you that having any kind of romantic relations with a boy at 12 is never a good idea.
Youre 12 and last time I checked 12 year olds were not anywhere near old enough to be settling down and starting a family, since thats what dating and having physical relationships is all about, its asenine that you would first of all, be allowed unsupervied by your parents enough to make out with boys, and that you would have been taught by your family that this sort of behavior is allowed at this age.
You're not getting married anytime in the near furture, and you certainly shouldnt be dating like you were. Your parents have honestly failed you at a young young age.
2006-12-11 05:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I'm sure this was in the mix somewhere, but just in case it wasn't....
I remember being 12. It's hard dealing with all that new stuff that kind of feels wrong but kind of feels good...
The real question is, what are YOU comfortable with? If you're not comfortable making out, don't do it.
I've read your addendums about being smart enough to know not to have sex, whatnot. So really I think that's the only question we're dealing with. Do you want to put your tongue in this dude's mouth?
2006-12-11 06:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by CrazyBirdMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I teach grade seven for a living...here is my two cents.
I am sorry to say, but dating at your age is much too young. It also sounds like you're receiving some peer pressure to 'make out' or go even further. You should be concentrating on having lots of friend fun, extra curricular activities, etc... this is not the right time for you to get bogged down with the whole boyfriend/girlfriend grade seven dating game nonsense.
2006-12-11 05:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by The_Cookie_Goddess 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A lot of persons say that guys like a task, however so do many ladies. They just like the dangerous boys since wish to check out to difference him. Also, being with a foul boy may also be intriguing. The final man I had a weigh down on was once a foul boy, however he was once attempting very difficult to painting a fine man photo. It did not paintings; I noticed by way of it after every week or so. I do not speak to him anymore since I understand I deserve larger.
2016-09-03 08:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by pharisien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry I'm pretty sure if he is the same age as you, he won't care how good you are! Besides you've made out with 5 guys so you have some experience. Just follow your heart! Good Luck! [I hope that you mean just kissing and stuff when you said 'make out'....] And remember just because you make out doesn't mean you have to go any further! Stay strong!!
2006-12-11 05:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only 12 years old! Why are you allowing boys to be all over you at that age? I really think you need to slow down before you end up with some kind of disease or something. Have some respect for your self.
2006-12-11 05:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Urchin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay let me be honest with you.. im 20 so im not a old fart!.... wait as long as you possible can to date boys, kiss boys, sleep with boys, because you have the rest of your life to do it and you want to unjoy your childhood right now. i know it seems like your childhood is all abut making out and having a boyfriend but trust me.. its not worth it because first of all non of it will matter once you graduate... second you will regret not enjoying your childhood. trust me ,.. i put too much thought into boys and dating at that age and now i regret it... you need to live out your childhood... just do really good in school and get involved in your school! thats the best thing you could ever do !
2006-12-11 05:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nas 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋