2006-12-11 05:10:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Or the same for a guy seeing his wife looking at porn.
2006-12-11 05:12:24 · update #1
join him and im sure he will love it
2006-12-11 05:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by donald k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand why this may make you uncomfortable. The first thing that you should understand is that there may be a bigger issue than him just looking at porn. Men usually look at porn when they feel intimidated by actually having sex. Explore the possibility that he may be suffering poor self-esteem or a lack of self-confidence. It could also be that the relationship is in trouble. Some guys just don’t feel comfortable having sex with their spouse if they do not feel close to them or safe with them. Leave divorce out for now and work on things. Always remember… Men are just little boys in the shell of a man.
2006-12-11 13:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by curious george 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though his watching porn when you aren't around points to different possibilities, it is still relatively harmless. Harmless compared to him engaging in something else that can be more devastating to your marriage.
Some try to fulfill their fantasies by watching something very unrealistic as it is in porn movies. Sometimes it can be to "benchmark" one's capabilities ~ "I want to know how I stack up against those most desirable male lovers".
Try discussing this subject with him when he's in a decent mood. Maybe even reiterate that there's nothing wrong in him watching an occasional porn movie. You may even suggest that you'd love to watch it with him, if he feels comfortable doing that.
Nothing like having an open conversation about it. It clears your mind about what he seeks watching them. He might be just thinking that you might approve of him watching ~ hence might have chosen to do it when you aren't around.
Go with an open mind. Have a conversation. Tell him that it's only natural and you approve of it. At the same time, make sure he understands that you feel bad because you haven't been given an opportunity to show him how cooperative and complimenting you can be, when it comes to intimacy and love.
2006-12-11 13:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a choice of letting him watch porn, and maybe joining him to find out how to keep a great relationship in bed or you can just let him go outside the marriage and learn more about what's being done on these porns which could cost you your marriage. Which would you prefer?
2006-12-11 13:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they all look at it, it just a TV he is looking not the real thing. I don't know one man or woman that hasn't looked at porn. I don't like it because it's so nasty but what you like and what someone likes is a horse of a different color. if you'd leave him just for looking you must not really care that much about him anyway. Ask him if he likes to look at it and why, don't jump up and leave over something that minor.
2006-12-11 13:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I think it's weird to want to look at porn, but I don't think it's a horrible thing. It would make me feel uncomfortable, but it's definitely not worth divorcing over.
2006-12-11 13:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by 12879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would join him. If he was hiding it and lying about it, I'd be upset - not for the porn, but for the sneaking around. I'd give him the opportunity to make viewing porn something that we can do together.
2006-12-11 13:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Heather C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how it would upset you. This just happened to me last night. I don't know how to feel about it. The fact that he's been hiding it from me is very hurtful also. We are planning to sit down tonight to talk about. I think it will be very important for me to keep an open mind and hear his reasons why he does this. I don't believe that divorce should be the answer, but I need to know who the man is that I'm married to.
2006-12-14 12:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Guys watching porn is normal. It's definitely not a good excuse to divorce someone.
2006-12-11 13:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by genuine1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what drugs are you on? don't divorce him. society tells him its macho to love porn or even obsess with it. as a guy i love porn, hoewever it is not bad to look as long as you don't touch. it is fantasy just that! what you should be concerned with is if you brought a playgirl in the house and he had a problem with it.. plain and simple theese people are not real and your guy is basically taught that porn is awesome and is acceptable. dont fight over an imaginary sexual partner. baaghhh
2006-12-11 13:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, find out what he's looking at. Find out if you can help him with his fantasy, if he likes a certain type, find out if you can help brign the attention back to you, by playing a few games, or acting a certain way for him. But if he is attacted to something that is compeletly diffrent from you, you need to talk with him, and ask him what you can do, to fix it. Divorce is NOT the key.
Good Luck
2006-12-11 14:08:23 · answer #11 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋