My parents are ruining my life, they dont want me to marry, have kids but they want me to dump my fiance. i cant move away either! no matter what i do its wrong and if i say anything it doesnt change anything. im lost and very unhappy. PLEASE HELP!
2006-12-11 05:06:34 · 27 answers · asked by Trinity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to sit down with your parents and have a rational discussion with them. While it may seem difficult since you are upset with them, sit down and tell them how you feel. Do not accuse them of things. It shounds cheesy, but use "I" statements. "I feel frustrated because...." "I feel hurt because..." then it doesn't seem like you're saying that they are the root of it all...you need to focus on you.
2006-12-11 05:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl how old are you? Why are youin such a hurry to get married? Don't rush into adulthood, whatever it is you are seeking to find in marriage will not be found! I wish I could reverse time & go back to the point where you are right now & then make the right decisions. Believe it or not your parents love you, & even though you willhate me for saying this, but they are probably right! Be yourself enjoy your life and don't settle for the first spring life has brought you. Dating is about figuring out what you like & what you don't like, you don't have to marry your first love. Why don't you marry yourself. Have a party & promise yourself that you will always love and honor yourself & always do whats best for you!
2006-12-11 05:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer all that controlling, yet at the same time as my youthful ones were small little ones i replaced into very strict. As they were given older they were given extra privileges. Now that they are 15 and virtually 17, i visit purely say, they have bent some guidelines, yet they have in no way lied to me. I somewhat have given them privateness ( i imagine i have stepped foot in both of their rooms perhaps 6 circumstances contained in the previous 3 years) and they tell me each and every thing. i do not problem them about their grades or experience them about their homework and they are getting A's and B's in Honors instructions. I believe them to do the right issues, because i comprehend i have raised them right. they're awesome youthful girls and that i'm proud to be their mom. My dad and mom were unbelievably strict (military inspection and room toss, all people?) and that i replaced into depressing...I also sneaked round and did horrendous issues in the back of their backs. I discovered from my dad and mom what no longer to do!
2016-11-25 20:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out get away from them! like move 3,000 miles away and don't answers your phone.Don't let then control you, my parents gave me the worse advice growing up,(really sad I was more mature and grow up than them). I only let there advice influence my life twice and it was a disaster. I learned not to listen them and do the complete opposite, thank goodness, I did.Most parents do give good advice I just had really bad parents!!! I'm grown up married to a sucessul guy, have 2 kids and all that normal stuff.So my life is normal.(thank goodness).I know it's hard but get away while you still can
2006-12-11 05:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very much that there are very many parents who agree with their kids choice of partner.
You have to put your foot down. For the sake of future happiness. It is your life, it is your choice who you will marry and when. If you make mistakes, that is your mistake also.
We all love our parents, but they can be over protective at times, and it is your job when and how you ask advice.
They are probably finding it difficult to finally realise that, this is it. Their daughter is finally leaving home.
Help them along the way, but also remember it is your life to live the way you choose.
Good luck with the wedding.
2006-12-11 05:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, by the way? This could make a major difference in their outlook. Do you have a job, or do they pay for everything for you? The first step to independence is to be able to provide for yourself. If you are college-age, go to school out of state, and make sure to get plenty of scholarships, as that will give them no say in what you do, as you are paying for it yourself.
As a last resort, you could simply elope, but that would be a drastic measure. Again, this all boils down to your age.
2006-12-11 05:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Denise W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking with your parents and keep telling them how you feel. Try as much as possible to be less dependent on them it may be the power in them that really controls you. Think carefully, prayer about it if you are a religious person and then make your decision. They have to learn to accept your decision which only you can make for your self. I wish you the best.
2006-12-11 05:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18, then yes, they can control your life and you have to deal with it. If you are over 18, you can always move out and make it on your own. You are in control of your own destiny, not others.
2006-12-11 05:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in their house your kinda screwed you have to listen to them all the time. Get a job, save money, and move out. If you dont leave thats your problem. No one could keep you there against your will.
2006-12-11 05:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by _DestroyingAngel_ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can only affect us or control us if we let them.
You are in control of your life, you MUST live it as you wish. YES you will make mistakes and mess up loads, but that's how we learn.
Move out, you really need to. Or at least threaten to.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 05:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋