2006-12-11 04:58:18 · 7 answers · asked by sublime_babe_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am not sure how old you are, but usually kids are supposed to act and feel a lot like normal. they are divorcing each other, not you. they may not love each other but they both love you.
2006-12-11 05:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them both about how you feel. Don't place blame either. Some ppl just aren't meant to live together. I am sorry for your loss. I've been divorced 3 times. My oldest is 19 and in the Air Force. He says for you not to to fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself. Do what you have to, to make sure your relationship with each of them gets better than when they lived together. Suggest family therapy or individual. Sometimes just having an outsider to talk to about this sort of stuff is what you need most. The therapist is legally allowed to give you advice and has the time to make better decisions than a stranger whose not heard all the details. My oldest son didn't let any of the divorces get him down. In fact, he was glad for them. The men were very abusive towards me. He looks at the positive in all that happens to him. He got really depressed his 8th grade year due to my 3rd husband critizing him too much. But after that he never let anyone else get him down. My 2nd oldest is very different. Ask me in 3 years how he worked it all out. lol Keep your chin up sweetie! Bad things happen to good ppl. Pick up a new hobby...a good 1. Keep busy & try not to focus on the bad changes but more on the good. Aren't they both in a better mood? If one is depressed then be sympathetic towards them as you would have them be to you. NO one is perfect. Parents make mistakes just as kids do. I know that I am sorry for all the mistakes I've made & I do everythng possible NOT to make the same mistakes. I hope to make fewer mistakes as the yrs go by! I'm older and have more patience. I hope your parents will take the time to talk to you and give you what you need. Make sure to tell them what that is! Good luck!
2006-12-11 05:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by wintermiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to act a certain way! Just let your emotions come out...it will help a lot. Make sure you are talking to your parents a lot and telling them how you feel. You just need to realize that they are better apart. You still have both of your parents, they will just live in separate places from now on. They will be happier apart, which will make your life a lot better! I know it doesn't seem like it now, but if they can't get along, it is better for everyone if they aren't together. It will get better over time!
2006-12-11 05:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it is not about you. Remember they both love you. Everyone deserves to be happy and some people are just not happy together... this may allow them to be happy as individuals, which will in the end make you happy. Try to see it as new beginnings instead of grieving the end of things that are already in the past. Be supportive of both parents, and don't allow yourself to become a middle man between them. All of this will make sense as you grow older. Trust that all is the way it is supposed to be.
2006-12-11 05:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're suppose to feel bad but just try to support them, divorce is never easy on anyone
2006-12-11 05:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of life. You have to realize it's not your fault or theirs. It happens. Just be supportive of your mom and your dad but ask them not to talk bad about the other one.
2006-12-11 05:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be supportive they are going through a really tough thing right now
2006-12-11 05:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by donald k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋