Is this bad,?

Question

I have known this guy for 7 months and been dating for 6months well i found out 2 months ago i was pregant and he was so happy he start to cry , but here the problem im 16 and he is 21,is there anything wrong with that. we are so much in love and decided to spend the rest of our lives together, he buys be everything i want,my mom like him but when she gets mad at us she threatens to call the cops and put him in jail, we are havin a girl im just scared something going to happened to him, anyone got any advice.

Answer 1

It is wrong, he is a 21 year old man, and you are only a 16 year old child, who is going to have a child. I hope he supports you, and won't run from responsibility. You don't know how hard your life is about to become. Oh, and your mother should have called the cops when she first realized how old he was.

Answer 2

Oh my, you do know that your situation is illegal, right? On another note, I see how 5 years doesn't seem that much of an age difference (my parents are 10 yrs apart), but think about how old you are. You are 16. The age gap between the two of you is a third of your total age. 1/3! At your point in your life, you are too young to really know what you want to do with yourself (I'm 19, so I don't mean to sound condescending), and if he truly loves you, he wouldn't have let your relationship reach the point of sexual intercourse until you had become a full adult. After all, you're young, and still would have had many years together, if this is indeed the love of your life. This has to be a difficult situation for you. Do you have any plans of marrying? If you do, at your age, you do need parental concent, because you are still a minor. But keep in mind, that you shouldn't rush into any arrangement that will not be the best for you. Find a councelor, a confidant, someone you can talk to and will help you work this situation out. But be careful, as this situation is more than likely illegal, they will be legally accountable to tell the police.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

First of all, congratulations on your baby! Secondly, let's set aside any moral judgements. (Shame on all of those who make such mean remarks!) The most important thing in life is love. A 16/21 split is not an unusual an age difference. It sounds like your baby was conceived in love. So, when your mom threatens, just respond with more maturity than she is showing by reminding her that she has a granddaughter on the way and that you all are family now. Time has a way of helping to work these things out. Try to be patient, and remember: In every situation you have the opportunity (and the power) to "add love and stir." Everything will be okay. I wish you a perfect pregnancy and birth!

Answer 4

He being 21 and you a minor, he shouldn't of pursued a relationship with you at all. Yes he can go to jail if anyone so chooses to call the police. However you are only 16 and what you have with him now is wonderful. What you need to learn is how to keep that and have a baby and still graduate from school. Sadly the odds are against you. I do for your child's sake hope it works out.

Answer 5

I went through the same exact thing back in 1997,I was 27 and got involved with a 17 yr old and her Mom did all the same things such as treatened to call the cops when we got into a fight or what ever. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you 2,just blow your Mom off when she makes threats,she doesn't mean it,she's just out to scare you.

Answer 6

This is VERY bad. If your mom calls the cops they can arrest him for having sex with a minor...even though it is consentual. I know a guy that spent several years in jail for that same thing. He will be a registered sex offender for the rest of his life. (Do you realize how hard that will make his life? ) He will be a convicted felon, he won't be able to vote, he will have to put that on every application for a job he applies for. He won't be able to live in a house that is 2000 feet from a school. What where you thinking? What was HE thinking? It's not like it use to be...they take that sh*t serious. The best thing he can do is win your mom over. Do things for her, treat her nice, be nice to you. It sucks to be him.

Answer 7

If you don't believe it's bad then well it's not. legally however, he and you could experience trouble, but as long as you keep it together things should go "as planned". Your mother either must except the fact that you two are together or not. Just because she gets angry with you or him she can not use that as a threat to your relationship. If she wanted you two to not be together she would have gone and called the police already. Let her know that the threats bother you and could ruin your relationship. You're going to be a new mother of course you're going to be scared, but don't worry about your boyfriend, he is old enough to handle himself. If he loves you and loves the fact that you two are going to be together for the rest of your lives and share the joy of a child, he should be able to keep himself out of trouble. good luck

Answer 8

Tough situation. You sound, from your question, more mature then most 16 year olds. How long till you turn 17? Can you wait till then and then move out and get married.

And you're not a child, I know this. But your not yet a full adult, though with a youngin on the way, you are about to be one. Good luck with this.

Answer 9

What state do you live in? 16 is the legal age of consent in some states, so him being put in jail may not even be an option.

Answer 10

Oh I'm so sorry....i feel for you....why did your mom let such an old guy even near you? I guess she didn't know.....anyhow ....I don't blame your mom for doing her job...don't get mad at your mom...she is doing her job....please love your mom....talk to your mom tell her how much you love her...how much stess she is causing you...it is way too much for you to handle....hold your mom...cry, your a family....she will love your baby and your husband....give your mom some time to adjust please....she has to vent ....let your mom threaten...but tell her it is causing you pain, you have school to worry about..stuff like that...it will work out...your mom is not your enemy...your lucky you have her...i know you guys are fighting right now..but it will all be good...