Do you feel like you need to get attention from husband? Don't feel attractive enough? Man always gone, with friends or his family how can you get his ultimate attention? HELP
2006-12-11 04:43:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, you are at this point, that he is avoid you. ARe you nagging alot? Do you critized him,a nd etc.
Love must be tough by James Dobson, is a book that has helped me so much,
In one of the chapters, this subject came up, that husband are spending too much time with famiies, friends, and don't want to spend time with the wife, of her nagging is the number one reasoning,
he suggested that you change your behavior, by being sweet, but keep busy when he is home, not to be available at his time of convience, stop being so clingy to him, and let him see that you can be of independence of him, that all of your needs are being met of other resources, but no affairs!
When he sees that he is home, trying to avoid you, but you are not there to avoid, that you are busy and to busy to notice that he is home!
This might go on for a couple weeks to 2 to 3 months, that he has seen a changed woman, and then he wondered if he is losing you, then he will be wanting to be around you, and make sure that you have no plans of leaving him!
From exercises, school, pta, church, friends, girlfriends, and etc,and that he sees that you have fiind your own ways of happines, and happy all the time, he is wanting to be a part of your life.
I was at this decisons, he stated he wanted his space, so I started with my own space and time, and kept busy, and still keep busy at times to keep his interest of the chase!
Finally he wanted to spend some time with me, and I would set up at date with him, and let him know my availbilty isn't that easy anymore! Then he got to the point wanted to spend more time with me, and I have already gotton use to my time space, for me to read books, computer time, and girlfriend time, OH I stopped nagging all the time, and dropped all the high expectations I had for him.
Then you need to be ready for your husband, get showered cleaned, made up, but I did this while going places to keep busy, and stay made up and had him wondered if I am thinking of meeting other men, that he has definetly neglected my needs!
Then when he was with me, I am doll up, and you know how men are very visual by staring at the ladies while with you, well I did the same to men! and He did not like it, and I had alot of ment flirting with me,while I am with him. Other men found me very attractive, and that really ruffled his feathers, and now he is glad that other men find his wife attractive, and he flirts with me, in public!
Get the book LOve must be tough by James Dobson,
it is a christian book, but boy did it ever helped me to understand my rocky relationship with my husband!
2006-12-11 05:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing or idea I use..Is to become totally self sufficient.The more needy I appear the less he understands my needs. So I go about my daily business, as happily as I can.I do stuff for me, you know shopping, eat what I like, basically do my own thing.(Oh and be nice !) The longest he ever went was 4 days and through all that time I came across as happy. Funny thing was that over that period of time I did become less needy overall. I won. Now I enjoy the time by myself and feel much stronger. When you depend on someone too much you can loose strength, it is as if your identity is somehow enrolled with theirs ..and It is to a certain extent in marriage...Just give my suggestion a go and you will get some ground back .
2006-12-11 04:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea W 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't agree with what Andrea said more!
She nailed it right on the head. This is something I am dealing with right now with my boyfriend. Yes, I tend to become too needy or something.. too dependent and that is not attracitve, and also I lose who I am. soooo she is right... become your own person, but at the same time soft and happy around him.
good luck.
2006-12-11 05:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, is that maybe if you show him how much he cares to you,When he goes with his family ask him you can go with him and also try a romantic dinner!
But if you see no change then that probably means he doesn't care about the relationship then is when you should divorce him.
Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-11 05:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who wants more attention from husband?
2014-12-15 19:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
several things you might try,1)write a letter from the heart letting him know how you feel,2)sit him down and tell him you have something very important & private to discuss,3)seek family counseling,Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-11 04:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone noticed it harder to date average looking girls?
2017-03-22 06:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't hot girls like to play video games?
2017-02-24 15:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should I do if I'm attracted to this boy?
2016-11-09 20:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bentley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. Stop letting yourself be walked all over by these loosers.
2006-12-11 04:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋