Do you try to instill the same traditions?
2006-12-11 04:39:47 · 10 answers · asked by Michelle 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
this christmas will make 16 christmases without my mother and even tho its been so long that she has been gone and even tho i try my best to keep up her traditions and i even use her ornaments on my tree and cook all the things she did....there is still apart of me that feels so lost at christmas when all before this was the happiest time in the world for me...in alot of ways it still is because i try now to make my little girl feel the way my mom made me feel at christmas...but it hurts sometimes
2006-12-11 04:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lost my dad last Sept. Holidays will never be the same.
Always create and maintain as many family traditions as you can with your family. If you're alone, go to places that are social in nature to mingle and mix with others. Maybe, an invitation will be forthcoming to spend holidays with another family. If you have a family of your own, definitely enjoy the same traditions you had at home.
Christmas hasn't been the same since I left my parents' house as a child. And Thanksgiving was VERY different without dad. I still have my mother, but the family dynamic has been radically altered. We're still trying to adjust.
If you had a good relationship with your parents, you can make the holidays a time of remembering the good stuff and appreciating what you have now; the time you had with them in the past; and looking forward to your new life ahead.
Take care and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-11 12:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by tklines 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with you christmas is not the same, i lost my dad
septemer of last year. he died of a heart attack at the age of 64.
i seen him in june and i thought everything was fine. it was a big
shock to lose a parent, and still a day does not go by that i do not think of him, holidays are always harder to deal with. last christmas was very hard, i try to still have the christmas tradition's but it just isn't the same. well i just got a good cry out,
help's a little. sorry to hear about the loss of your loved one.
good luck.
2006-12-11 12:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by bob 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Mom died six years ago...still seems like yesterday. Holidays are tough, she always tried to make them so festive. I try to instill same traditions with my kids (In twenties now), but it doesn't always work out the same.
2006-12-11 12:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my step dad died this year, so it's just my mom, my little sister and i. it has been depressing..he used to put the christmas lights up, we all decorated the tree together, made egg nog, wrapped presents and watched christmas movies together. even though he's not here, i know that he would want us to enjoy christmas and continue our traditions because he loves us. and i think your parents would want you to enjoy your time with those that you still have and have a very special christmas.
2006-12-11 12:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes...while it may feel odd when you do the things you grew up doing..it hurts but feels better at the same time. I don't know if that makes sense. It's hard...but you may also want to start some of your own traditions too..maybe some that honor their memory
2006-12-11 12:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Farah G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes baby, and its' O.K. I try to remember how much warmth and love they did give me all those Christmas's past, and I watch the little bitty kids that are'nt tarnished by greed yet, and that gets me through. By the way happy holidays girl. Love you for just being sentamental and asking that question.
2006-12-11 12:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by littlescreechowl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course. every year around xmas my mom would always be happy and singing xmas songs. i would always remember her putting the presents under the tree and video taping us when we opened them. and then she would make us eggs benedict. Ive tried to make it for my sister and my father but it is just not the same. People might move on, but they never forget and they will always keep thir loved ones in their hearts
2006-12-11 13:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by veronica leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haven't really lost mom yet but looking at the shell of the woman she used to be and praying i don't lose her during holidays and yes my spirit not as high major depressed
2006-12-11 13:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll be your daddy this Christmas. Have you been naughty or nice this year?
2006-12-11 12:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by returnofbuckwheat 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋