if someone is cheating on you ? they know that if they're cheating and if you find out you're going to leave them. but they keep insisting that they are not and on the hand they act like they are hiding something from you, frankly im tired of asking and I know that they are tired of me asking what would one do in this situation?
2006-12-11 04:31:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seek therapy for your low self esteem and jealousy issues. Shut up or get out.
2006-12-11 04:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is not wrong to keep asking, it is unhelpful and even harmful to the relationship.
If someone knows that you will leave them if they are cheating, he will definately hide it from you.
On the other hand if a person isn't cheating and you keep asking if he is, the relationship is falling apart because ther is no trust and lots of suspicion.
If you are tired of asking, stop asking. If you keep asking, whether or not he is cheating, the relationship will end.
Why do you suspect cheating? Is there a history? Are their signs? What are you interpreting as "hiding something" from you? A relationship filled with such suspicions and lack of trust cannot endure.
Take care of yourself, go out with friends and have a life outside of your relationship. This is healthy. Trying to make one person your everything is unhealthy and will end up ruining the relationship.
2006-12-11 04:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and trust are the two things you don't have going for you right now and relationships don't last without it. Put your chin up roll your shoulders back and then brush him off. Tell him "Your s**t is in the box to the left" Life is too short to be stuck in a bad relationship, go get you a real man that doesn't need to lie or hide things from you. Good luck!
2006-12-11 04:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for others, but some guys just LIKE to stay out...even for dumb stuff, like shopping for CD's or just cruising around. Still, some wives CANNOT get it out of their head that their husbands might be cheating! (did he ever do it before?)
Still, asking over and over just gets most people mad (if they're not cheating)! If he IS, he may never be honest w/you, so maybe you need to do what somebody said: go through his stuff, or even have him followed. But don't stay if you think he's still cheating. It makes BOTH of you miserable.
2006-12-11 04:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking the question, then you are probably correct in thinking they are cheating on you.
If you want absolute proof, you could always hire a private investigator. It will cost you some money, but at least you will know.
2006-12-11 04:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking constantly. If he says no he isn't cheating, but you still suspect, then let it go, and let him trip himself up. A therapist once told me to do the following:
stop asking
start looking, in the car, phone, phone records, wallet, pants, pocket, anywhere when he isn't looking
secretly follow him and check up on him, but don't tell him anything, let him believe you are mistaken about your feelings and he will get sloppy, when you have evidence and I mean fail proof then confront him, and for the time being act trusting, this really works. Don't ever give away your secrets about what you are doing.
2006-12-11 04:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If I really suspected something, I would do my own investigation. But then again, if they gave me good reasons not to trust them, I would just leave them plain and simple. But I would want to know for sure.
2006-12-11 04:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is the most important thing in a relartionship and if u dont trust them then the dating thing wont workout so i thibk thta u should just brake up with him but nicley and tell hi im srry but i just dont trust u and if i cant trust u then this isnt going to work out its the right thing to do. the most important thing in a relationship is trust, love, honesty, communication, respect, and understand if he is cheating on u then he is not honest so it wont work out, if u dont trust i wont work out, if he doesnt communicate with u and talk things through it wont work out and if he doesnt understand then it wont work out u dont have four of then prime things in a relationship
2006-12-11 04:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Gossip Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out late a few nights this week and next, with no explanation. The answers will start coming.
2006-12-11 04:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl tel him that u wil leave him if he is not honest to u or if u know who he is involved with confront her or better dump him see i feel that guys like him never change and anyways u will never trust him iknow that for afact i am in a situation like that
2006-12-11 04:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋