Been with b/f for almost 4yrs, well 3 yrs ago his 3 kids were telling me all sorts of horrible things about their mom. (abusive) I took all 3 to their aunt (b/f sis) & uncle (b/f BIL) & had them tell them what they were telling me. I told everyone in the room that I was too new and it should be taken care of by family. Anytime the kids said "stuff" of that nature I had them tell the same Aunt. Well, I've found out that last year that sis had told another sis who told the youngest sis...who told the exwife! Now this "stuff" is still going on and the 2 boys are begging their dad to come get them OUT of that house with their "crazy abusive mother". So what the kids have said and what I had said (3 yrs ago for me) was true. But his family has decided to take the exwife's side and put my b/f and I on the OUTside. We had NO clue till today why everyone started to hate (1st just me)& then him too. The x claims dad is neglecting his kids. Yes-for NOT turning HER in to CPS! We've lost his famly
2006-12-11 04:13:12 · 7 answers · asked by wintermiss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not "just the g/f", my b/f lives in MY house with me and my 4 kids. His 3 kids live in this house during his visitation...making me more of a stepmother rather than "just a g/f". The kids tell me (all the time) how much they prefer my mothering than their mothers bashing, crazy mood swings and suicidal tendencies. My b/f refuses to split the kids up. Two oldest r boys(17, 15)-one girl 12. Girl won't go against her mom & tell the truth but Boys will. Oldest is soon 18 & moving in with us on his b-day, the other two we worry about. B/f hasn't the balls to fight X in court NO money for lawyers for 1 reason not sure of the other reasons. I'm familiar with custody cases & can help him file all the probono pprwk. I won full custody 18m ago. My kids dad was abusive. B/f is male chovanist--don't wanna listen to me Even tho I won all 3 of my cases! (criminal DV & 2 custoday battles these past 2.5 years!) I will do my part and turn it in to CPS. How to get him to do HIS part?
2006-12-11 04:54:07 · update #1
If there is abuse going on the 1st priority is to protect these kids, family relations be damned.
Why would you even care about being outsiders to people who would ignore an abusive situation? Your boyfriend's family is clearly highly dysfunctional. Count you blessings that these people are not in your life and contact CPS or the appropriate authorities to report the abuse.
Do the right thing. Good luck.
2006-12-11 04:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, in this case you can't not beat yourself up for trying to help those poor boys. Remember, you did what you thought best. Now moving forward, your boyfriend needs to decide if he wants this abuse to continue or to finally step in and do something. To hell with what the family thinks! Think about the children. Their welfare is the only thing that matters right now. And you as the girlfriend must decide if you will stick by your man's side. It is going to be a long and hard fight. Can you handle it? Can you be there for him and support his decision? Don't let the ignorance of others stop you and him from doing what you know in your heart is right. I wish you all the best in this situation.
2006-12-11 12:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Billie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have never told anyone but the father of the children and called CPS yourself. You learned a lesson on how people turn on others and make life hell for trying to mean well. Stay out of it all together since you really don't have business in it anyway since you are only the GF. Next time make a phone call anonymously.
2006-12-11 12:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Turn her a-- into cps now then since they already hate you then I would do it anyway. so what you have lost his family if they were on the exs side anyway then what the hell do it and do it now . They are nut cases and they should have turned her in . I would mow the lawn on all of them and let cps know that they all knew about it and refused to do anything about it . good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-11 12:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what these nut cases think? Get those kids out of there! That is the only motivating factor here. It isn't about whether or not they take your side, or whether they like you. Its about the kids. Call whoever you have to tell. As for your boyfriend, he needs to grow some balls and help these kids.
2006-12-11 12:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the family is too STUPID to believe the kids, then tell the boyfriend to go and get his children, and raise them properly and PUT HER AZZZ ON CHILD SUPPORT
2006-12-11 12:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you did the right thing
2006-12-11 12:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by wrfab 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋