I fell in love with a man who was separated not only by miles(she lived in another country with their child) but by so many differences. They were apart for 3 years. She did not want to move back to this country and he didn't think he could get a job. Well he decided to move there so he could be with his daughter. I could not move there because of my son here. We tried to keep in contact for a year (it has been almost 2 years) but long distance is a relationship destroyer for obvious reasons. They are together again with their child. I have left him alone but I know he loved me dearly. Their marriage was doomed from the beginning but I will not interfere. Has anyone ever gone thru this and in the end they found eachother again. I have made no contact nor he with me. I will not come between them but I am wondering who has been thru this and they ended up together in the end?
2006-12-11 04:04:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are doing the right thing by having no contact with him. I am not sure if you will ever see this man again. I did somewhat the same thing you did. Unfortunately for me the man I cared for very much ended up using me for my money. My hope for you? Ask God.....have faith in God because God knows what is best for you. If this man ends up leaving his wife and comes back to you without you interfering, than it will be for the right reasons. The child should always come first. Best of luck
2006-12-12 16:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes It happened to me and my first real love; We met 33 years ago it was Love at first sight for me. It was unlike anything that I had ever felt in my entire life; I felt that I would never be able to live without her. But it inevetibly happened after short marrage she realized she loved someone from her past; and I had to go on alone. I loved her so that that I thought about her all the time; so much so; that I never was able to really give anyone else a chance. I just couldn't let anyone else in nobody could ever touch that part of my heart again. I wouldn't let anyone behind the walls I built; I was so afraid of being hurt again. We did see each other from time to time through the years and it only reinforced my feelings for her. Then we met again a couple of years ago it had been nearly 20 years since I saw her last she was just as beautiful as the day I first saw her; all the old feelings came rushing back but by this time even though we were both alone we had grown so far apart yet remained such good friends that I knew I could never trust her with the part of my heart that she alone has held for so many years. I hate the fact that I feel that I have to protect what belongs to her from her. I will love her forever but I don't think even she could live up to the memory of her that I have. And the answer to your last question is no we aren't together we haven't gotten together in the end but it's not the end till it's The End. Maybe we will find each other in our next life maybe just maybe theres still a chance in this one; I honestly don't know. I have to believe that we will meet again otherwise the pain that I have carried for all these years of not being with her would unbearable it is not possible that my love for her was wasted. I will love her with my last breath and again with my first.
2006-12-11 05:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to move to the other country because of his child, then he didn't have to also move in with them (his wife and child). That's a pretty good indication that he plans to stick it out with both of them. He may make a move when the child is grown and gone but more than likely, unless she dumps him, he will be staying put. That's not the answer I know you were hoping for but there is somebody out there looking for you specifically. You may have met already or have yet to meet him. Don't keep blinders on about this other guy because you won't recognize Mr. Right when he shows up. Sounds easy, huh? It's not but you have to take what you learned from the relationship and leave the rest, good and bad. Good luck! Keep your eyes peeled for Mr. Right because he's cruising around somewhere looking for you.
2006-12-11 04:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by salamander35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is with his wife again. why are you putting yourself through this, wondering when and if you will ever be together again. Probably not is what I think. He has moved on to his wife again where he should be and you have been left in the cold, this is why there is always a lesson in life, and my dear the lesson for you was, DO NOT date MARRIED men. I only hope you find it in your heart to move on as he did.
2006-12-11 04:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply go on with your life. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Perhaps after the kids are grown they will decide that they BOTH want to move on... or maybe not. You should spend your time thinking about you and your future. Sounds like a lot of time to waste in your precious life.
2006-12-11 04:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no chance you will get back with him. He didn't leave because of his children he was still in love with his wife. he might of told you how much he love you.But there was some down low things going on with him and his wife. They have got back together so their marriage was not that doomed.
2006-12-11 04:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Eurecia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never been through this but you have my sympathies and if their relationship was doomed then he'll contact you again
no worries,
good luck
2006-12-11 04:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but he's made his choice, and you have to let it go.
2006-12-11 04:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No chance.
2006-12-11 04:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never =P
2006-12-11 04:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bill$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋