we both realize this is hurting our relationship but, we misunderstand each other so much. We think completely differant and do have some significant trust issues. Both of us want to be with each other because when we get along it is like heaven and we care deeply for one another. What can we do to stop this arguing that happens so much. We are trying to trust each other, but hurts from the past have been pretty detrimental to us both. We have not been unfaithful to each other. We just have very differant opinions of the way things are. My friends thinks he treats me really bad and is very controling. His friends think I am not the one for him, but he does. His family doesnt like me, my family doesnt like him. Both of us have expressed to each other that if we would just quit arguing, our relationship would be truely great.
2006-12-11 03:53:36 · 11 answers · asked by Hawksflyn2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
god what a nightmare, I have had a similar experience, I was with someone for two years, his friends HATED me so much, that they wouldn't even come int he house if I was there!
His mum and sister hated me too, and my dad thought he was a twerp!
Oh but we didn't care, we were SO in love, there was nothing we didn't tell each other or think we could get through. We even pretended to break up several times just to ease the pressure of everyone else in our lifes always dropping down on the other one.
I would have walked over burning coal to be with him for one second. I would have killed to guarantee our future together, that's how much I felt for him, it was all consuming love, our lust and want for each other knew no limits............but neither did our jealousy and mistrust of the other. I couldn't believe that the enormity of what I felt was shared by him.
In the end, the constant encouragment of his friends and family were enough to get him to cheat on me. I never knew the meaning of the word devastation until he told me that.
I thought I was going to die from the pain of it.
Now I look back 6years after the end of it(we were on and off for another two years after), and I recognise it as the unhealthiest relationship I have EVER known. We were possessive of each other to the point of insanity. Wild accusations were commonplace. If there is no trust, there is NO point.
I hope that you CAN trust each other, because if you can't then walk away now, it'll be easier in the long run.
I still think about him sometimes though............I don't think a love like that ever goes away completely.
2006-12-11 04:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you constantly argue, you're basically arguing about nothing. Here are a few suggestions that will help: Number 1: Put the past behind you. Yesterday is gone and you can't do anything about changing the past, but you can work on today. You have to choose to not be nit picky about every little thing. Be specific about what you're arguing over and stay on that topic.
Number 2: Choose your battles. Decide to let the little things go and only discuss the really important issues in your relationship.
Number 3: Learn to accept each other for your differences. Don't fight against, try to learn more about them & be more understanding of them.
Number 4: You have to decide if the work you need to put into it is worth it to both of you. It is going to take, commitment, compromise and honesty with yourselves and each other.
Number5: Forgiveness is necessary and both parties should learn to say those 2 important words..."I'm sorry"....sometimes even though you think you're right. It's called compromise...learn to agree to disagree on certain topics and them put them to rest.
This is just a few things you can do to make it batter. I hope it helps. Arguing all the time is wasting time you could be enjoying each others company & doing something fun. Stop arguing and start enjoying each other. Learn to open up to each other and to say what you need from each other. I wish you the best!
2006-12-11 04:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just agree that you should both count to 10 before opening your mouths and never ever go to sleep on an argument
2006-12-11 03:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i refuse to argue over something. It is pointless and the end is always a big fight. so there is no reason for it. it is better to just walk away before you say something that will hurt someone
2016-05-23 05:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when you just have to give up trying....my ex and I had very similar problems...we all have a past....but in our case his past kept interfering with our future......apparently keeping in contact with all your ex's is acceptable to some people.......meeting up with them behind your back is nothing to get upset about......finding their used underwear in his drawers is perfectly normal...and I am sure every man has a collection of themselves having sex with numerous women........but according to him I am the one with trust issues!!!!
I take my hat off to you if you stick with it......I however have chosen to walk away with the little dignity I've got left and leave him to find someone who truly deserves him!!!!
2006-12-11 04:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jane E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might all the time but think off the fun making up in bed
2006-12-11 04:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by ian n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes not the person you should be with at the moment. just ask yourself: why is it that we keep arguing?
2006-12-11 04:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by mr happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with arguments.
2006-12-11 04:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with centrline...welcome to marriage u guys......ur gonna have fights....just dont let it ruin the relationship.....take deep breathes and count to ten and talk about things rather than fight about them............gl
2006-12-11 04:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by hot12flirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can talk but not do what you'd like to repair your relationship
then get to walkin honey, it aint workin.
2006-12-11 05:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋