My best friend from high school told me after graduation that she was bi. Later I found out she slept with a (nasty) girl and a guy. She was really excited about it but I was totally disgusted. I told her that she could do whatever she wanted but I didn't want to know about it. I am a Christian and I love her to death but I don't want to know details about their fling. We eventually got back on track and are good friends now but...
Now she's engaged to this man and claims to be straight.
I just don't understand why she changes her sexual orientation every other week.
Was she just experimenting or is she one of those girls that kisses girls for attention??? I just want to understand her and I don't wanna offend her...advice please.
2006-12-11 03:53:27 · 11 answers · asked by Smiles 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you are christian you should know this, "You without sin, cast the first stone" Regardless if she want to be straight this week and bisexual the next one, just be her friend be supportive, tell her about God. Talk to her about what you think is good and bad but always tell her is your personal opinion and always be her friend regardless of her decisions in life. Do your part as a christian, offer your opinion, be her friend, be supportive and always listen to her concerns. Tell her that you don't really want to know every detail because it bother you, and I'm pretty sure she will understand. She don't need no one to judge her.
2006-12-11 04:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some straight girls "experiment" with being bisexual because they know it turns a lot of straight men on. Watch any straight oriented porn and you'll see what I mean - they always have girls with girls as an appatizer to the main course of man on woman (often they'll have a man with a woman who's simultaneously doing another woman)
So your pal probably did the bi thing to turn her boyfriend on, and now that she's grown, and is in the market for a husband, she is back to being straight.
2006-12-11 04:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she's a teenager right? Hormonal bursts make people do crazy things, and have totally different emotions today as compared to that of yesterday.. Don't take this as your burden, just be her friend. And if she feels the urge to describe her "conquests" in detail, just tell her you don't really want to hear about it.
Just set the boundaries on what she can or can't tell you, and if you still like hanging out, well then, hang out with her, as long as she does not take you to her sex parties.
2006-12-11 04:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a ditz to me. I weren't want to have her for a friend just b/c of that.
As for her being formely BI I think she was just curious and was just experimenting. So she could just be straight now.
2006-12-11 04:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me that ur friend is bi but just likes guys more. Just be a good friend and respect her wishes. theres nothing u can do.
2006-12-11 05:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Amber B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love a girl that kisses another girl for attention that's so savage of a chic
2006-12-11 04:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was unsure her self just hang in there cause you really don't need to understand her sex life unless your a part of it and sounds like your just her good friend
2006-12-11 04:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by mom101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she was proably just experimenting dont diss on her thought she may just going though a tough time so be there a suport her
2006-12-11 04:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by duckie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a christian you know that you shouldn't be too close with someone like that. I'm sure that she doesn't have a good reputation. If you're a true christian who loves Jesus I think you should be more serious and careful. I think you should preach her the word of God. Tell her how she could be saved from hell. I guess you'd love to see her in heaven with you, don't you?
You need to know that there are some friends that you have to break away from if you're a christian.
2006-12-11 04:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
Don't worry about her sexuality. Just be her friend.
2006-12-11 04:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by sydney77 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋