Yes, this questions seems strange, and reasonably so. Here is my situation: I am a sophmore in college, straight "A" student, involved in campus ministry and student government, but I still live at home, as campus is only a 15 min drive away. Here is my question: Does a 9-10 pm curfew sound a little to strict?
I'd like to add on the fact that I'm not allowed to go to any of my friends houses (including my bf) as my mom can't monitor what we're doing.
I would like some parents to answer, as my dad doesn't care as long as I keep him aware of where I am (I do), but my mom believes that "If my boyfriend really cared for me he wouldn't keep me out past nightfall."
Anyone have any thoughts? If I try to approach her, she simply gets defensive on me.
2006-12-11 03:50:08 · 17 answers · asked by Denise W 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i feel your pain.. but i do think 9ish curfew is a little ridiculous.. im 20 soph. college student and my curfew on week nights is 10 30 and weekends midnight.. i think that is alittle petty.. sit down with your parents together, maybe talk to you father prior and tell him your feelings and see if he would take your side to fix this little curfew problem.. try to compromise with your mom.. tell her that she has no reasons to not trust you and you'll keep in touch with her via cell phone if she prefers.. i do believe for a 20ish year old that is a strict curfew.. and i thought mine was bad... good luck! email me if you want more "reasons" i've got plenty... i've been battling this same thing for years..
2006-12-11 03:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by yourmygoodfeeling 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is a control freak. When you are 18 you are an adult, however, you live under your parents roof and therefore must respect their wishes. Talk to your parents together. Maybe your dad will help you convince your mom to let you stay out later. The fact that she won't let you go to your friends is ridiculous! Tell her you have nothing to hide from her and ask her to go to your friends with you--she probably won't. Again, you are an adult! I think you should get an apartment with some of your friends.
2006-12-11 03:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way old enough to start making decisions on your own. You need to spread your wings and fly, even if some of your decisions are the wrong ones. How else can people cut the apron strings and grow to become their own person? I've had two in college now, they made some mistakes, but they have also learned valuable life lessons. Try to get your Dad to help you out on this one concerning your Mom. Good luck.
2006-12-11 03:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by deardra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have gone away to college then you could do whatever you want like a normal college student. I can't remember having a curfew past about 16. Of course on school nights it was 10 but weekends and holidays there was no limit.
2006-12-11 03:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has to trust you.. first.. My parents were strict on me.. i had curfew...10 at night was time for me to go home.... But if you live your parents you have follow the rules... Your parents is doing for your own good too so you do not go out and party or get drunk and get hurt..
And if you wanted to out later in night.. just tell your parents i am going with friends that your parents know and trust.. or if lie little.. about where about you are.. it not like your parents are going to that places you went to and look for you... (i had my share of trouble with little lies)
2006-12-11 04:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does sound extreme for a college student, especially one who is getting straight A's.
However, if you are living in their home... then they get to make the rules. You are a 'tenant', basically, your 'rent' is your adhering to the rules. If you don't like the rules, then you, as an adult, have the option to move out and get your own place. I know this sounds harsh, but it is the way it is.
2006-12-11 03:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother sounds like mine, when i was your age. my mum still likes to keep a check on me, even now im a 22 yr old man and nearly married! She only wants the best for you and it wont be for much longer anyway. She does have a poit if your boyfriend did care he would understand why your mum wanted you home early, and he should make more use of the short time he has with you. treat em' mean keeps em keen!
2006-12-11 03:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids, the oldest a sophomore in college. She is also a great student. She has no curfew. I trust her to make sound choices. Your mom needs to ease up just a bit.
2006-12-11 03:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by puzzled 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this seems a little excessive. You need to rationally sit down and talk to your mother and tell her that she has raised you right and she needs to just trust in the judgment and morals that she has instilled in you. Tell her that you love her, Thank her for providing you with such an amazing foundation but tell her you need a little freedom. Start out slow, just staying out till 11 or so, dont go crazy and stay out all night.
2006-12-11 03:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, if you went to college and lived in the dorms she wouldn't be able to enforce a curfew. Maybe you should think about moving out.
2006-12-11 03:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋