Who does more housework in your relationship?

Question

This is a "survey" for married couples or those living together.

Please give a quick sketch of how much domestic work (cooking, cleaning, childcare, etc), the woman does, and how much the man does (use percentages if possible, in your household.

Also, it would help if you gave examples or exceptions. Such as: the woman does all other domestic work EXCEPT cooking, which the man does.

If you feel like it, try to think of ONE thing that the man or woman would NEVER do, such as: "The man would never change a diaper", or "The woman would NEVER fix the toilet".

I'm using this info for an paper...so I'd appreciate serious responses. Thanks!

Thanks to (almost) everyone for the informative answers! So far, it looks like the women are still doing most of the housework, if not all (whether it bothers them or not)! The men seem to do most of the outdoor/mechanical stuff and some (good for them!) help a lot w/housework.

I forgot to ask if people can say whether or not they work outside the home...tho' some of you said that.

Please keep those answers coming....! ;)

valhammer: PROPS to you for having it 50-50! That is SO unusual these days. Even thought this is for the purpose of an article, I couldn't resist complimenting your open-mindedness!

Answer 1

I do most of the housework--about 75%-- ie: cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I also pitch in with the yard work. My husband does the bulk of the yard work (I would say about 80%), and if I am too tired he helps out with the inside "stuff". Mostly we do what we like and what we are best at because it makes the job easier, however we are both there for the other one to lend a hand.

I pay the bills, but we talk about what to do with our money, and any "bigger" purchases we discuss with each other first.

We are pretty equal as far as dealing with the kids.....things such as helping with homework, baths, getting the kids ready to go out, diapering, discipline, etc. I might actually do more, since I am at home with the kids so I would say it is about 60/40

Marriage is a lot of work, and so is having a great relationship, but I think we manage alright. We have been married 11 years and have 4 kids. Marriage can not be defined as each person giving 50/50....sometimes I give more and sometimes he does. It is just a matter of what the situation is.

Answer 2

In my realionship I would say that I take care of 95% of the housework. I clean the entire house he never has to clean the toilet , mop, sweep, clean the shower, windows mirrors dust etc. I or do the dishes and put them away. The house is kept immaculate. He does put in a load of laundry here and there which I appreciate. I do all of the Grocery Shopping put the Groceries away. He does help with taking out the trash here and there. I am responsible for all of the meals. Although he is willing to cook if I am sick.

Basically he brings home the money. I make sure that the bills are paid on time. I make sure his cell phone bill is paid his car note our Rent, lights, cable, etc.

We both work. I have a very low stress job that does not pay very much. He on the other hand, owns his own business so he basically is working 15 hour days, 6 days a week. We have a very traditional realationship. At first it ws an adjustment for me. I have never been responsible for someone else ever before. I learned that in order to make our realtionship work I would have to just do all of the work and learn to like it. I want to make him happy, he works so hard after all. We both are content with the way things are.

Answer 3

60/40. I do the most b/c I am a stay at home mother. I do all indoor house work and child care for the most part, but he will change diapers and feed the kids and play with them and such. I will never mow the grass, but he designs lawnmowers for a living, so that's his territory, outside. He is a mechanical engineer so he does all the work on vehicles and is very handy for fixing things around the house, he is a good cook, but very rarely does so. But, he refuses to touch any of the laundry or clean the kitchen or bathrooms or the kids bedrooms. I think he does a lot for someone who works out of the home all week, but my job is 24/7/365, no holidays or vacation, I can't just leave the office and my work behind.

Answer 4

I've been married 37 years and what my husband does now is alot different from what he did in our early years of marriage. During those years, his attitude was 'I work hard (he's an ironworker), you stay home or work part time, thus you do the household chores'.

Today it's different. My husband will help pick up, he will help with the vacuuming and putting the dishes into and out of the dishwasher. He will stir what is being cooked on the stove but will never make an entire meal. He will not do the laundry but he will take the clothes out of the washing machine and put into the dryer. But never fold the clothes.

He is responsible for taking the garbage out of the house and taking the garbage cans to the road side for pick up. He takes care of the outside of the house, the mowing, weeding and what ever else needs to be done.

He will help me make the beds, but never make them himself. He will wash the windows and help keep the shower clean, but he will never clean the toilet.

He's a good guy. Sure, he picks and chooses what he wants to do inside the house, but it's still a great help. And I love him for all he helps with. We have a great arrangement.........

Answer 5

Here goes...I am a married woman. I do 99% of the cleaning, 99% of the childcare, and about 90% of the cooking. My husband does 1% of the cleaning because he does the garage, 1% of the childcare because sometimes he tells them to get dressed for bed, and 10% of the cooking because I'm honestly not a very good cook. Although he does do all of the maintenance work when he gets a chance (electrical, plumbing, mowing, shoveling, etc.) I do the raking. I hope this helps with your paper.

Answer 6

Well I cook, clean, work, and take care of a 6 & 7 year old. My husband comes home takes a shower, gets his supper and goes into the livingroom and watches t.v from 7-10. Then goes to bed. When I ask him to do any house work (take out the trash) he always says tomorrow. He is useful in one way though he cuts the grass in the summer with a riding lawnmower. So I'd say I do 99% of everthing.

Answer 7

Honestly, we do about 50/50. We both cook, we clean the house together because we get it done faster, we both do laundry, although my wife probably does more laundry , and I always take the trash to the curb. My wife is very independant so she will try to fix anything, although I usually do the plumbing stuff and things like that. I like to fix stuff. We do most everything as a team...it's alot easier & alot faster when you work together.

Answer 8

has she heard of gloves????? she is being unfair. you've performed no incorrect right here. to be thoroughly honest on your difficulty i do not imagine 50-50 is honest in any respect you of route have alot more advantageous on your plate than her. what does she do all day ( on the grounds that she doesn't artwork). i'm not affirming residing house artwork is a woman's pastime ( i'm a woman and a feminist for all that concerns ). spouse deliver isn't about 50-50...... this is about who can contribute what. as an social gathering if she replaced into the only operating and going to college then i ought to assume you to do more advantageous of the residing house carry artwork (like 70-30). she is being lazy and selfish

Answer 9

I do most of the housework 90%...my husband 10%.
The cooking is 75% me.... 25% my husband.
I enjoy doing yardwork 85% me...15% my husband.
Car maintenance 100% husband, simply for the fact I don't know how to do it.
Grocery shopping 50% me...50% my husband
Home repair and maintenace 40% me...60% my husband.
Raising our daughter...100% both of us..

Answer 10

I do : Laundry, Dishes, and Cook
He does: Cleans the whole house, vacuum's, feeds the dog, takes out the garbage, and sometimes cooks, and works a full time job.