i cant help it to cry because the family that i taking care for 4yrs now broken for being self centerd and selfish of my ex husband..he cheated me and chose the girl.i know that im not with him beside because his working abroad and migrate in states.it takes long to get us to fix our papers to live in states,but he cant wait and his such a liar that he told me he fixing our paper but i was shocked that his living with the girl and have kids now.i waited him and i did my best to be a faithful a good mother and a good wife but this is what i got.i loved him so much and his the only man that i loved.it hurt a lot and its like craching my heart when im thingking of all the lies thing he told me.we have two wonderful kids and when im looking at them cant help it to cry because all i wish is to have a happy family.eventhough were not rich atlist a happy one.but he broke my family that im taking care of.im crying right now because i still love him,but im hurting also of what he did to me.
2006-12-11 03:26:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LIKE I HAVE STATED BEFORE, YOU HAVE MANY QUESTIONS ALONG THE SAME LINES FOR MANY WEEKS NOW (16X WITH DIFFERENT HEADINGS!). I AM SO VERY SORRY YOU ARE IN SO MUCH PAIN. IT IS NOW TIME TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP, SOMEONE WHO SPECIALIZES IN WOMAN'S ISSUES AND FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS. YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE MUCH BETTER THAN A MAN WHO IS AMORALISTIC AND SELFISH. TRY TO HAVE A HAPPY HOLIDAY FOR YOUR CHILDREN'S SAKE! PEACE!
2006-12-12 03:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by brxny2000 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru the same with my ex wife. It has been since April 06 that I found out, and it still hurts. What I am learning is that I was in love with a LIE. She was not what I thought and that is the same in your case. You are in love with a LIE. He is a liar. You have to realize that you are not in love with who he really is. You also cant make someone love you. Also, you should know that you are no alone. There are many who have been in your situation. There are many who are still in your situation and there always be someone going thru this in the future. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Take comfort in knowing that you are in good company as you are a good person and deserve better. Make decisions based on what is the best for your children, for they will need you more than ever now. Google "Cheating spouse" and there is a lot of good advice from pro's on how to get thru this. I wish the best for you and hope you feel better sooner rather than later.......
2006-12-11 04:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Star Tech 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time to deal with what has happened. Just keep reminding yourself that you wont always be in this situation, things will get better and you wont feel so hurt given time. You should be proud of yourself for coping so well during such a difficult time. Best wishes, and i hope things work out for you soon xx
2006-12-11 03:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by rattyfraggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I'm hurting too. I wish I had something awesome to tell you to help.
Try to consider yourself lucky that you only wasted a few years with the man who conned you into loving him. He clearly didn't deserve you as a faithful wife and mother to his children.
Enjoy your life with your kids in the meantime. Don't check up on your ex husband because unless you find out he's been hit by a bus you will just be hurt again. Get out and meet people. Join clubs with your kids. It doesn't have to be miserable and lonely.
2006-12-11 03:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry of your broken family contributors, i wanted that each physique might desire to take the hurtful soreness far flung from you, yet i will't, I prayed that God will carry you and supply you the convenience you desire. I prayed that God will carry you mutually and keep you stable as a mom of your marvelous blessing of toddlers. permit it slow circulate via, till now any rash decisons of you making on your destiny and of your toddlers. and it;s okay to cry, yet to not long, ok, carry close in there, some how there will be solutions on your questions, and precise now, for the time of your toughest darkest 2nd, you're able to desire to foucs on survial and your toddlers! locate some help with the aid of family contributors, pals, or perhaps in church, and look after your self, workout, eat precise, and get relax, and keep your psychological and emotional wellbeing to the superb you could. circulate out and have some relaxing time with the youngsters, and inspite of the girlfriends, see a humorous action picture, yet keep your self busy, of thinking of him. sooner or later, he wll see, that he had destroyed this courting with you, and your toddlers, via his selffishness reasonings, and permit God take venges on him, not you. carry close in there, do not supply up on existence, yet do supply up on him!
2016-12-11 06:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by goslin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am really sorry for you. god will send you heart the peace and love that you need. as for you exhusband he wasent good for you so you are all beter been by yourself. all you need to do is taking care of you babies and they will bring you a lot of joy and happines. GOD BLESS YOU and good luck
2006-12-11 03:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes humans will crush our hearts, God wants to help you today....He loves you and hates a broken heart....all you have to do is to invite Him into your heart....He is love....Father I ask that you would counsole this woman and comfort her, in this time in her life....in Jesus mighty name....amen
2006-12-11 03:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am really sorry for you.Try to forgot
2006-12-11 03:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by eug3n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋