Who do you all consider should be #1 to my husband wife or his mother?

Question

Just curious guys help me out do you think your mom or your wife should come first ? Not saying mothers are not #1 but would you consider your wife to be just as important? So people feel there mothers are #1 in any situation? Or Woman would your mother or father come in between you and your husband .

I wish my husband felt that way he is such a ma ma boy that he even told me for mother day that his mom gave birth to him and I didn't and that's why she got something and I just got a little card. Mind you I was pregnant at the time as well.

thank you all for your helpful advice and comments I really thought everyone would say mother is #1 . I think mothers are very important but when they interfere in your life as my in law has it becomes stressful and hurtful because my husband chooses his family over me all the time.

Answer 1

Wife is #1 and mother is important too. If he gave a gift to his mother and gave you a card, plz dont be jealous. He loves both of you. Silly comparisons spoil an otherwise good relationship.

Men find this sort of competition very stressful in their lives. Both women have their importance in his life. If he is forced to choose he should normally choose his wife but it is a very painful decision. You should remember that his mom took all the pains to groom him to be a fine young man just to hand him over to you. She came into his life before you. You are enjoying the fruits of her labor and you should be grateful to her and not treat her as your competitor. In some situations when the mother is sick etc. he may give priority to her because of the situation. If the wife constantly demands his attention then she is going to lose him ultimately. Nobody wants to be controlled in all situations in life. He should have a choice of what he can do and you cannot question him. I suppose he spends more time with you than with his mom in which case you should not grudge the time he spends with his mom once in a while.

How do you feel if your son is totally controlled by your daughter-in-law?

Answer 2

That's a tough one. Your mother brought you into the world and hopefully gave you at least 18 years of total servitude and nurturing, and you only have one mother. Your wife has or probably will carry, deliver, nurture and serve your children...You may or may not have more than one wife in life. I believe mother and wife should be equally important but the wife is the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with, so I'd have to say the wife should come first in most cases.

Answer 3

Absolutely Not! Sex is what obtained us right here within the first situation. If you consider I am going via replacing the diapers, sleepless nights, and dashing to the clinic or medical professionals workplace each and every couple of weeks, you obtained a further factor coming. No pun meant there. I love my daughter will all my center and so much of my revenue, and I love her mom with what ever is left over. Now after running all week I will prob ought to get vegetation, candies and playing cards Saturday, then stand up early Sunday to make breakfast, force over to Nana's and Gran's for 2 dinners then dwelling once more to preform within the bed room?? I do not consider so. Mother's Day must be approximately Moms, keep the intercourse for New Years eve.

Answer 4

My mother-in-law is a widow and 95 yrs. old. She complaints constantly that she doesn't feel well but there is nothing wrong with her according to her doctors. My husband is now being manipulated by her and spends every night with her. The only time I see him is for 15 minutes during his lunch break. She really has a hold on him and he doesn't have the guts to leave her. I think he just uses this as an excuse to not be home with me. I can't stay with a man who doesn't want to be me. I get along with his mother but she is definitely the one who comes first. I am ready to throw in the towel and move on with my life.

Answer 5

Once you leave home and get married, your wife/husband should come first, then your family. Of course, there will be times when you have to put your Mother first, if she's sick or in need. On a daily basis, your significant other should be your first priority.

Answer 6

What does it matter you control freak?!! Why cant he have both? A wife and his maternal mother, instead of a busy bee wife that wants to control and manipulate him to her every whim. This is a non issue. Screw your husband and boss the kids. If you do this, his mother and their relationship will evaporate. However, remember your place in his life. You are number one woman, however not the only woman. Whats next, he isnt to share his time with the rest of his family, because you and the relationship with your family is so shallow?

Answer 7

I believe that you guys have your own family now, and you should both be number one to each other. if his mother is interfering that he needs to tell her to back out. If you are being unreasonable to his mother, than he needs to tell you in private that you need to chill. You should be number one because you are his wife and companion for life. You are now your own household and that always comes first. His mom has her husband. My parents would never come between my husband and I. My husband and mother don't get along, but it is my decision and they have to sit back and let me make it and deal with the consequences, and I decided that they deal with one another and they do just fine. You would never know they did not like each other. Due to my husbands parents not liking me, he no longer talks to them. They chose to give him an ultimatum and he made one. Now they have to deal with that. He made that decision not me. So you need to tell him how you feel and he needs to make a decision on who he finds more important. Than you need to make a decision off of that. I hope it all works out for you Hun.

Answer 8

That is relative. Wife should come #1 because you have to spend your life with her and you chose to do so! Mothers deserve respect also because they raised you. It is difficult to decide, right, but I guess the bottom line is who comes first, rather who is right.

Answer 9

Your mother is an important person...but once you get married, I think you have to make your wife the number one relationship. If not, I think your marriage might be doomed....

Answer 10

mother's are #1 but when you get married the wife is supposed to be#1 I wouldn't want mothers or fathers to come in between me and my husband nor anyone else for that matter and I wouldn't want to come in between him and his parents.